Do public displays of affection bother you?

[RandomAnthony]

Have you ever wanted to tell someone to get a room? What's the line between acceptable public displays of affection and unacceptable public displays of affection?

[Stacia (the 2010 club)]

I like public displays of affection, unless it's ultra excessive. It warms my heart to see couples kiss and hold hands.

There are limits though. Right before Halloween, I was in line with my 2 year old at one of those Spirit costume stores. The line was about a 45 minute wait because it was the day before Hday, and the young couple in front of us was making out the entire time. They'd come up for air, and the guy would shift positions, maybe to switch to sucking on her neck for a minute, and then they'd exchange "I love yous" and go back to sucking face.

I wanted to puke.

[Brittomart]

Well, because I'm a bitter and jealous asshole, my heart sinks when I see couples hold hands and kiss in public, but there's nothing wrong with it.

But that doesn't mean making out. I went to Red Robin, and there was a couple making out the whole time. Except for eating. What the hell.

[Rebecca]

I'm not real sensitive to it. Normally I don't think I really much notice it. If I was forced to watch as in Stacia's example (especially if I had a child with me) I'd probaby be rolling my eyes a bit.

[Jim]

RandomAnthony wrote: "Have you ever wanted to tell someone to get a room? What's the line between acceptable public displays of affection and unacceptable public displays of affection?"

What do you mean wanted to? Feat accomplished.

[Michael]

I don't mind holding hands, hugging or a chaste kiss iin public, but more than that bothers me. I once saw a couple having sex in front of this fountain:

http://www.phototour.minneapolis.mn.u...

The picture isn't very good, but that's a bench in front of the fountain and there are other benches around the fountain. I was sitting on one bench and the couple was on another on the other side of the fountain.

[Rebecca]

For myself, I'd say that anything that leads to actual arousal is too much, unless those watching WANT to see it or otherwise have reason to expect it, say at the Kentucky Derby or something.

[Stacia (the 2010 club)]

Or in a college sexuality class? :p

[Rebecca]

Exactly!

[Sally, la reina]

I like to watch groping.

[Félix]

Sally wrote: "I like to watch."

[Lobstergirl, el principe]

iBritt wrote: "Well, because I'm a bitter and jealous asshole, my heart sinks when I see couples hold hands and kiss in public,"

Hee.

[Sally, la reina]

No, no larry. I don't like to watch in general. Just public groping.

[Lobstergirl, el principe]

Rebecca wrote: "For myself, I'd say that anything that leads to actual arousal is too much, unless those watching WANT to see it or otherwise have reason to expect it, say at the Kentucky Derby or something."

Are we talking about humans here, or horses?

[Lobstergirl, el principe]

Barb wrote: "Seems we've come to a consensus ... I'm all for little gestures of affection, but not a fan of full-on groping and making out."

I'm with Barb.

Seems like I've been seeing fewer grotesque PDAs over the last decade.

[[deleted user]]

LOL@ Lobstergirl.

[Phil]

Larry wrote: "Sally wrote: "I like to watch.""

This is GR, so Larry is including a literary reference. This particular line is from Being There.

[Suefly]

iBritt wrote: "Well, because I'm a bitter and jealous asshole, my heart sinks when I see couples hold hands and kiss in public, but there's nothing wrong with it.

But that doesn't mean making out. I went to Red ..."

I second this...bitter bitter bitter

[Sally, la reina]

Phil wrote: "Larry wrote: "Sally wrote: "I like to watch.""

This is GR, so Larry is including a literary reference. This particular line is from Being There."

Oh, I forget about books.

[Suefly]

Barb wrote: "Seems we've come to a consensus ... I'm all for little gestures of affection, but not a fan of full-on groping and making out."

Sometimes I don't mind being groped, but not in public

[Félix]

All those in favor of groping, say "aye."

[Phil]

Eye.

[Félix]

Suefly wrote: "Sometimes I don't mind being groped, but not in public"

Well we should move over behind these bushes over here ....

[Brittomart]

Larry is frisky now that he's found the G-spot!

[Kevin]

when i see a couple scrunched up on each other mindless of everyone else i am sorta jealous

[Phil]

I'm sorry, Kevin. We'll try to be more discreet.

[Jim]

And by we'll he doesn't mean me and Phil!

[Phil]

:: nudges Jim ::

Aww, c'mon, let him have his mental image.

[Jim]

You're right Phil, just skip msg#31 Kevin.

[Kevin]

aaaaannnnnnnnnnd CUT!

[Jim]

Phil, did you notice he cut right after the mental image of you and me? Funny that is the last image he would want to remember :-)

[Phil]

He thinks we're cute.

[Kevin]

like siegfried & roy

[Stina]

I don't like it either... and maybe it's because I'm sour grapes or maybe it's because I think that full-on making out and groping should be private (human sexuality class performances not included).

Dutch, there is just something about family members draped on each other on a couch that should be public property that really gets my goat as well!

My cousin and his ladyfriend CAN NOT keep their hands off of each other and every picture taken of the two of them is them wrapped around each other like pathetic little snakes. Gag!

My mom put it into my head early on that the people who have to gratuitously show off how in love they are are probably convincing themselves more than they're convincing others.

[Stacia (the 2010 club)]

I read one of those love languages books close to 15 years ago and it was explained that everyone gives and receives love in a language of their own.

1. Physical touch and closeness
2. Words of Encouragement
3. Acts of Service
4. Gift giving
5. Quality Time

It's quite possible that a couple who is overly physical long past the initial first love/lust phase could very well be truly showing one another love through their touch.

Not saying that it's any less skeevy though.

[Stacia (the 2010 club)]

Btw...I'm a quality time person. I like the physical, but I don't feel any more loved or any less loved based on how often I'm intimate with someone.

My parents are an interesting study. My mom loves words of encouragement and gifts, and my dad is such an acts of service guy. They've clashed over the years because my mom doesn't realize that when my dad builds her a cabinet it's his way of showing his love.

[[deleted user]]

Kevin "El Liso Grande" wrote: "like siegfried & roy"

Uhhhh, you made me google that. Now I have an image of Phil & Jim in leopard leotards.

(Tiger really but leopard sounded better.)

[Jim]

Kevin "El Liso Grande" wrote: "like siegfried & roy"

That's sweet!

[Jim]

Gail «Cyborg» wrote: "Kevin "El Liso Grande" wrote: "like siegfried & roy"

Uhhhh, you made me google that. Now I have an image of Phil & Jim in leopard leotards.

(Tiger really but leopard sounded better.)"

Sexy ain't it.

[[deleted user]]

If Kevin is comfortable in a bubble bath wearing a fruit hat I don't see any reason why you and Phil shouldn't be comfortable wearing a leopard leotard.

Very sexy! :D

[Jim]

Well now I know that Gail must be blind :-)

[[deleted user]]

I had my fingers crossed.

[Rebecca]

Gail, speaking of how much jeans cost in another thread, it reminded me: somebody told me books are very expensive there - a real investment. True?

Sorry, I stole the thread and got off topic, I'll return it now!

[[deleted user]]

It's true, books are astronomically expensive. To buy a paperback book from a local bookshop would cost between $25 & $38. A lot of people are turning to online book shops such as book depository where you can get them significantly cheaper without freight costs.

[Rebecca]

Wow. I'm glad you have an alternative! A friend in New Zealand once bought a DVD on-line and had it sent to me, and I sent it on to him.

[Aynge]

If it's overt, yeah, it bugs me. Get a room.

[Phil]

Public displays of affectation bother me more than public displays of affection.

[RandomAnthony]

Gail «Cyborg» wrote: "It's true, books are astronomically expensive. To buy a paperback book from a local bookshop would cost between $25 & $38. A lot of people are turning to online book shops such as book depository w..."

Whoa, what? Don't they have printing presses in Australia?

[[deleted user]]

Yes we do have printing presses smarty pants. It's all to do with economics of scale. When you have a population of 22 million, it cost more to produce a book per person than to produce a book for a population of 330 million. This is the simplified explanation.

[Phil]

That explanation doesn't make sense. With all the technology available today there's no reason it would cost more to produce a single copy of a book than it would to produce 25,000 of the same tome.