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I need your advice...
Keep it simple and short as possible.
What field are you in Bekah? What you can do depend on what kind of job you are looking for but here's some general advice:Network: Talk to friends, relatives, neighbors, etc. and see if they have some advice, information, know somebody in a company that interests you, etc.
Send out targeted resumes: Try to include keywords in your resume that match the job descriptions.
Practice for interviews: Read about the company, industry, job description and practice answers to the most asked questions - Tell me about yourself, etc. until you sound natural (but not rehearsed.)
:-) I try, but most of those online apps don't let you! I'd hate to be the one reading those...When I had to filter resumes, my eyes would start to glaze over the long ones!
I gota a question? how do you all beat holiday stress and a depression?
good question! My bf and my best friend both sometimes struggle with this. What I tell them both is that its just one day just like any other out of the year. And like any other day it has an ending. For holiday stress...write down whats bugging you..and then acknowledge that you do have to deal with it, but then SET BOUNDARIES, and stick to them!
Also, at those times when I feel depressed I start to try and think beyond that moment and catalog all the most important things that don't have to do with whatever is bringing me down. I have a loving family, I have my health, I have a place to live that is warm, I have food, I even have my books. Yes I got laid off, but its JUST a job. In the GRAND scheme of things, it was a moment in my journey, it wasnt my destination. It did not define me, and it ultimately was just a means to an end. I will find another. Someday. Try to look beyond the moment. I know that its been hard for me to do that, cuz sometimes you feel like you're stuck in quicksand...can't move above and it just keeps sucking and sucking, but you have to use your mind and focus.
And then, I believe there are just days you NEED to take to sit in it. No other choice, nothing will help, but you wake up the next day and go on. Its what we do.
It's not really the holidays that bug me, I love buying for my family and the holiday itself. I am just so sick of OTHER people expecting me to do things...go out to dinner, this party, that party, brunch at the country club...I JUST WANNA STAY HOME! I am a really homebody, love to just be home and enjoy my family, the tree, cook dinner or bake cookies...I am so old fashioned its not even funny! Keith tells me I'm Martha Stewart or June Clever(minus the heels).LOL
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Heidi, just say 'No, thanks.' Like you, I am a homebody. I get teased because I turn down invitations. But, if it's good for mental health to stay home, do it. Go out when you want to, but stay home when you don't. I am not being flippant. I totally get what you mean because I am definitely a homebody myself.
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Bekah, check out USAJobs.com. They have lots of government jobs in various fields.
Yea, I am the same way..I want some interaction with other, but not much. Set up those boundaries! Thanks Danielle, will do!
Oh, I definately do, and I say "NO" believe me. But there are some things I can't possibly say no to...like kids chorus and band concerts, my sons hockey games(usually 2 in a weekend, and most of times 50-100 miles away)...its alot of time...thank God I have a wonderful hubby who does all the running for practices 2-3 times a week so I just have to run my daughter to dance and 4H..and well now they both started in door soccer...so that too. LOL...So see I, don't have time for any extra shit!
Do you find time to read at least?
So...what should I wear to an interview?
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Danielle The Book Huntress , Certifiable St. Vinnie's Ninny
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Bekah, what kind of job is it? If it's business casual, you can wear a nice pair of slacks and a sweater with a nice blouse. If it's professional, you should wear a suit.
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I need some advice. I am very stressed right now. There are some things going on that are wearing on me. I am trying to be a good sister and daughter, and part of me just wants to hide in my room and not be bothered. I admit I am pretty grumpy. What can I do to deal with my grumpiness, because I don't like being snappy with my family? I can't hide in my room right now, because I have some extra chores because of the current situation. I am a big worry wart, and I have been praying for a better outlook, which is helping, but I still have moments where I get really snappy. Any advice for me? I do try to be thankful, and the time of year is helping because I love the Christmas decorations and the season.What do you do when you are grumpy and get kind of snappy?
Oh crap Danielle..I'm in the same spot as you. The very exact same spot. Add to that, I feel like a total loser with no direction cause I have no freakin job!I hide in my room and talk to you guys and/or read. I try to not do that as I can handle it. Otherwise, I just keep repeating to myself to keep my mouth shut. If you have to be out doing chores is it possible for you to put your ipod on and enjoy some music while doing your chores? It might minimize the actual exposure to others that causes snappines.
Other than that, take your time before responding. Count to ten, close your eyes, take a deep breath, put a smile on your face, and then answer. Or just keep silent. Tell them, hey, I'm not in a good place right now, and I don't want to take that out on you, I love you, please give me a little extra space and understanding. Sometimes just saying that lets them know, ok Danielle is dealing with stuff, we understand, and our role in helping her right now is just to back off.
Are any of these doable?
PS: I have 2 cousins named Danielle and we call one and sometimes both of them Dani...sometimes I catch myself almost typing it out here to you too!
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That is great advice, Bekah. I will do that. I am not much of a homemaker. I can cook, clean, do all that. I just don't care to cook daily and I hate washing dishes. But, I'm the only one who can do it. But, I will use your idea and put some music on why I do my thing.I did talk to my sister about what's going on with me. She gets it and loves me all the same. I just feel bad when I get snappy even if she knows why.
Hugs, Bekah! I appreciate your understanding, and I feel for you. You will find a job and you are NOT a loser!! My sister is in a similar boat as you (laid off). She's awesome, and so are you. Things will turnaround for you.
Hugs again!
Danielle, I'm one of those people who has to have time to myself and down time, where I'm doing what I want to do for a period of time. Some days that period of time is longer than others! Even when I have extra things on my plate, I tell myself that as long as I can have a little time EVERY single day then I can handle whatever comes my way. So, make sure you set aside some time every day to do what you want to do! *HUGS*
Danielle, have you tried listening to audio books while you are doing housework/cooking/cleaning? My mother-in-law does this and loves it!
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Thanks, Cheryl! Hugs back at you. I haven't tried audiobooks. But it's a good idea. We do have Netflix on. I can put on my favorite shows on while I do that hated dishes! I do put it on when I clean the litterbox. The most hated job in the world for me!
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It occurred to me that I am probably grumpy b/c I haven't exercised lately. I'm getting over a cold. I might try to do some yoga today.
Oh, great idea! I was sick last week with Bronchitis and I started exercising again yesterday and it is frustrating not being able to do what you normally do. I hope that works for you! And I hate doing dishes too! In our house we have a rule, if you cook then you don't have to do the dishes- everyone else does them while the cook relaxes! And the litter box! Ugh!! I used to have an indoor cat and I hated the litter box.. now we have an outdoor cat! :)
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My sister and I split up dish-washing duties. Normally I am more responsible for the litter box, b/c she's got some back problems and asthma. Right now, I'm kind of stuck with most things. I hope you are feeling better, Cheryl
I used to hate doing dishes, but in recent years I've found it relaxing because my mind really leaves the activity and travels on serious issues and its when I get some of my best thinking done...the litter box..hmm can't help you there cuz yeah it's the worst!
Thank you Danielle, yes I am feeling better. I hope you start to feel better soon too! :)
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Danielle The Book Huntress , Certifiable St. Vinnie's Ninny
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Thanks, Cheryl.I'm too worried about the dangers outside cats face, so I keep my cats indoors. So I just suck up the litterbox. I think I am just having the 'full plate syndrome'.
Yes, it can be scary thinking about all of the dangers for outside cats! I'm convinced our cat has used at least 3 of her 9 lives. But me and my oldest are allergic to cats so really it's best that she be outside.
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I can respect your situation. My cat Grace has 12 lives, and she risks the remainder daily. She really is evil. I call her the Anticat!
Hey danielle, I always hated doing dishes9before we had a dishwasher...but my mother in law doesn;t ahve one and she says doing dishes is her "ME TIME"...everyone leaves the kitchen and she is the only one left to do the "chore", she turns on music...this time of year Christmas music or Kenny G usually if its not Christmas and just does her thing. I have actually tried to help her do dishes before and she says, "go away, this my time" and laughs....I know she doesn't like help...but I always offer anyway. So think of it as YOUR TIME.
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Heidi, your MIL should come live with me. :)My sister doesn't mind doing dishes. Strangely, I don't tend to use the dishwasher b/c I have to load and unload it. I know that it's pretty bizarre, but I find it easier to just wash dishes and put them in the dishwater to dry. I know, I'm weird!
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Cheryl wrote: "LOL! Cats are funny!"Cheryl, I put her on a joint diet, and it's backfired because now she can jump all over the place and refuses to stay off the kitchen counter and tables. I had to throw out a whole sauce pot full of gravy because she put her head in and was licking it on Thanksgiving.
Oh no! Our cat is always sneaking into our house whenever someone opens the door and she immediately runs to the kitchen, hops up on the counter and looks for anything she can lick up or snack on! Sneaky cat! Cats do make me laugh..
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I wish I could laugh at Grace more. Usually I'm just annoyed b/c she makes more work for me. She's more trouble than ten cats! And I've spent thousands of dollars on her!
Oh, sorry Danielle, but I had to laugh at that! I know what you mean about the extra work... I'm always asking why we have pets because of all the extra work they cause me to do!
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I love her, even though she drives me crazy. It's like a bad relationship!
I have two questions...1) How do you block someone on here (goodreads)
2) How long do you think is it appropriate to work at a new job before you log on to goodreads? :-) I'm about 40% serious!
I'm not sure how rto block on GR's. but bet danielle knows...as for logging on at work, don;t think I would ever dare......Oh and, did ya get the job?
Oh Heidi...Not yet...but it's a good fit. Still have to interview...and you are such a good person! I am not! I have to have some goodreads fix during the day. I can always use my phone!! I was just thinkin about it and wondering others opinions. I always make my own decisions about stuff like that. And I thought it was a funny question.
You know if I can't actually be reading my book, I wanna be talkin about reading a book!
((addiction))
LOL, I guess thats why I'm a stay home mom, hahahaha, so I can check GR's when I want...(not really the reason I stay home...LOL)
Need advice. on 3 things! 1)How to beat the B-day Blues?? my 25th b-day is tomorrow.. and i just feel so down..it wasnt a great yr emotionally :(, but my family just cant accept the that. B-days is always celebrated,and they take it personally if i feel blue!! !! im stressed out to the core!! **hides in the cocoon** "on families: we will always love them, but we dont always like them" Amen!
2)how to emotionally educate oneself about keeping emotions at bay. ex: i read an intense/deep plot and i feel gloomy or just out of sorts for a period of time!. (thats why i try to avoid emotional rides, but they are so addictive my fav kind books in fact). Its funny because i am in the medical field where i deal with emotions everyday!! but the books just get me!! WTF???
3) Got a Kindle for B-Day... i have no idea how to go about it.. maybe i will post a separate thread about it. Any insight is helpful!
((((((((((((((((((warm huggs))))))))))))))))
Oh, the bday blues!! I'm sorry you're going through them Atumn. I went through the worst of mine at 25 actually. I just sort of freaked out about it. After that, so far at least, it's been ok. Its a day like any other. And there are so many bright things to look at about your life. Yes, there are some days you have to just start out with the basic: I woke up today...so great! :-) I can see, hear, smell, taste, and walk. And go from there. Try to look at the bigger picture that is your life. And your fam and friends just love and care for you. Thats it. It's love and care. Two simple things right? But not exactly. I mean those are really so powerful! Some don't have that. (And I'm going through this right now too, and so I'm writing this out for myself as well) Its been a rough week for me, heck a rough year as well. Maybe the books get to you so much because its a safe place for the emotional outlet you might have with your work..if only you could?
I understand your feelings and of course am here to chat whenever!
Salary requirements. This always stumps me. How do you guys handle it? When you're told to submit your salary requirements ... how do you calculate?
Beckah: thanks so much for the advice. My b-day wasnt as bad as i predicted would be, so that was a big plus! just have to get over this holiday season.. **sighs*** ur right, the books are in a way an emotional outlet. i have many issues with intimacy (trust, relationships and things of the sort) so i think this is why the romance stirs me up, as supposed to medical crisis.NOW. with your problem. well, its been almost a week since your posts, so i dont know if you already solved the prob. What i usually do is to first have a ballpark idea of what my career/training/position pays on a yearly basis, then look at the current position`s benefits and permanency potential,and position demand. with those aspects in mind i make an average of what i think is fair for me and the employer. The fact that you know the game and its rules is always safe because if they dont agree with ur number, then theres always room for negotiation. (i dont know on what field you are, but thats usually how is done in mine)
best of lucks with the Job hunting !!!!
((((((((((warm huggs)))))))))))
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Atumn, just tell your fam you want a low-key bday celebration. Just dinner or something.I feel you, I'm kind of like that too. I like being in control emotionally, but sometimes my emotions just go haywire. I think it's a sign you need some me time. I totally freaked out on my 28th birthday. It was the worst one I've had so far. Strangely, birthdays in my 30s aren't as bad.
Hugs back at you!
Bekah, I go on Goodreads at work all the time. I just try to avoid suggestive photos and explicit threads. Unless their computer use policy forbids it, it's okay.
How to block someone. If you go to their profile, there is a very small tab to the right that says block member. It's very discreet.
Try these sites:
http://jobs.aol.com/salaries?sem=1&am...
http://www.calculatorweb.com/calculat...
I typed in budget salary calculator on Bing and they came up.
thank you Danielle! ((((huugs)))))) im glad im not so lonely with this bday/holiday blues..
Ok, so here I go...
I'm unemployed, recently moved back home to the East Coast. Love it, love spending time with my family, espcially my new niece. However, because I like to spend money, I need to get back into the work force, and shock of schocks - I actually sorta miss working...
I know...stupid.
Anyway, I've started sending out resumes and such..so
What is your best job search/interview/resume/cover letter/references advice?
Hit me!