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How rude is it not to tip? >> the most disgusting thread in Goodreads.>> nurses win.
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Feb 21, 2011 08:58AM
that's a tough one harry. you are tipping the waitress based on her service but what if your whole dining experience was bad. dirty silverware (dishwasher fault), food not good/hot (kitchen fault), out of lots of things on the menu (somebody's fault), etc. hard to tip well (though i do) when the whole deal was not good. also, sidenote, when i was a server/waiter if i screwed up an order or forgot about it i would blame the kitchen. easier than taking the heat plus i still had a shot at a tip
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I can't believe that Larry wanted to stiff the manager on his anniversary in front of his wife :-)
If I'm with someone I think is a lousy tipper, I usually offer to work out the tip. Then I give parameters - at least blah, but maybe more like blah...For the record, when I do our restaurant's payroll, it alerts me if someone isn't getting paid minimum wage based on their tips, but it rarely happens. Good service is an art form, and those who are good at it are usually well rewarded.
We have a couple of jerks who regularly come in and don't tip. Believe me, it's cyclical. They're unlikely to get good service again in my bar. If you come in, sit down, complain, order things that aren't on the menu, and then don't tip, the next time you're likely to be ignored.
On the other hand, there's an old guy who lives down the street and who has been unemployed for a while. He leaves maybe a quarter for tip on his beer, and always apologizes for it. "When I have a job..." When he got a job, he tipped better. He's a little nutty, but he's kind.
Sarah Pi wrote: "...On the other hand, there's an old guy who lives down the street and who has been unemployed for a while. He leaves maybe a quarter for tip on his beer, and always apologizes for it. "When I have a job..." When he got a job, he tipped better. He's a little nutty, but he's kind."Damn. I'm sending you some money to cover this guy's tips for a while.
He's a little nutty, but he's kind.That's probably the way my local bartender describes me.
that's the way we talk about you too.
Larry wrote: "He's a little nutty, but he's kind.That's probably the way my local bartender describes me."
There are worse ways to be described.
Agreed. And I'm a generous tipper, too.
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I've never liked Ed Rendell.
Lg wrote: A lot of old people are very low tippers, and it's usually perfectly innocent. They don't know what percentage is customary. Probably when they were growing up no one tipped, and then in the 70s it was 10% or something, and they haven't been getting the memos. Really? Spare me. Is that the way anyone wants to be seen when they're older? Stereotyped as someone who's totally out of touch with the times?
Scout wrote: "Lg wrote: A lot of old people are very low tippers, and it's usually perfectly innocent. They don't know what percentage is customary. Probably when they were growing up no one tipped, and then in..."It may appear a sterotype to some but it is a fact of life to others. We all must age.
If older people are dining out with younger members of their family as been shown above, some slip back and top up. Regardless of who pays the overall bill, if they have ate out collectively why can't they ALL chip in collectively for the tip? Or do staff expect everyone at the sitting to tip individually?
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I can't tell if you're upset with what I said, or with the old people who are low tippers.
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Staff don't care who tips, individually or collectively, just that there is a tip.
I'm not even forty yet and I have a hard time believing what things cost now. I can sympathize. (I do regularly tip, at least the minimum- for the record).
I haven't checked this thread in a while. Looks like I missed a fight. Yay! You know who I tip a lot? Coffee shop workers. I want me some high-quality lattes. I want to be seen as a high roller in the coffee shop circuit.
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Sally wrote: "...those girls' cheer sometimes makes or breaks my day."It took me a minute to process what you meant. At first I was picturing all the Baristas literally cheering you on--"Hurray, Sally!"--while making your latte... Anyway, it's nice that you tip: those are tough jobs.
I agree. You know what's weird about a barista gig? You're making the coffee right in front of the people who are about to drink the coffee, so they tend to watch as you make the coffee. I now consciously avert my eyes.
RandomAnthony wrote: "I now consciously avert my eyes. "They wait for that moment, and that's when they spit.
sarah pi - question. how is one supposed to tip at a bar when you phone in a take out order and the bartender is the one you pay when you pick it up?
Kevin "El Liso Grande" wrote: "sarah pi - question. how is one supposed to tip at a bar when you phone in a take out order and the bartender is the one you pay when you pick it up?"I think that is one occasion where you don't necessarily need to tip, or you could leave a couple of dollars if they have a tip jar, as you would for coffee. You're not paying for service, so I wouldn't get pissed off at anyone who didn't leave a tip in that context.
An 82 year old woman eats a large pizza EVERY DAY??Holy fuck, Batman!
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Oh dear, someone left this comment:
They didn't say what happened that she ended up on the floor... I think she saw a pizza crumb on the floor and when she got close enough to taste it.... She fought tooth and nail to beat down the mouse who thought he could take her.
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Not.
I would for sure spit in Malcolm's food if I were a waitress.
I've lived in the US and the UK, and I have to say that if the Brits tipped more they might get better service! Wait staff, in general, whether in shops or restaurants are generally surly and rude. You are interrupting their day by forcing them to wait on you! It's gotten a bit ridiculous.
I've lived in the US and the UK, and I have to say that if the Brits tipped more they might get better service! Wait staff, in general, whether in shops or restaurants are generally surly and rude. You are interrupting their day by forcing them to wait on you! It's gotten a bit ridiculous.
Amelia wrote: "I would for sure spit in Malcolm's food if I were a waitress.I've lived in the US and the UK, and I have to say that if the Brits tipped more they might get better service! Wait staff, in gene..."
AMELIA!!!
I want you all to know that I waited tables for like 5 years and in all that time I never once spat in someone's food or did anything else gross to it either. I have served food that had been dropped on the floor, though.
p.s. if you've eaten in a restaurant more than 5 times a year you've eaten food that's been dropped on the floor. I can promise you.
Me neither. I wish it were bees-landing-on-sandwiches weather! What a lovely thought.
Speaking of bees landing on sandwiches weather, I just saw my first two robins of the year.
Barb, I totally do that! My old roommate couldn't finish her food if I found a hair in mine...even if it was at home and the hair was my own! I used to laugh myself silly when she tried to clean out her own hair brush, there was a lot of gagging and dry heaving. :)
I'm just like your roommate. I gagged reading those last 2 posts.
Barb wrote: "I mean, how do we know they're following the 5 second rule? "Actually, I read somewhere that the five second rule is a myth 'cause stuff is dirty as soon as hits the floor.
Well of course! Its the equivalent of "kissing it up to God."
I've seen one too many children picking up food from the ground, pick off the visibly dirty bits then pop it in their mouths...I'm so desensitized to this phenomenon, you might even catch me doing this at times (You'll have to watch me very carefully though because I'm quick).Stomach acid can clean pennies, right?
The 5 second rule depends on the food item. Obviously, the dirt that is picked up by a slice of bologna landing flat on the floor vs a cracker is vastly different.But, like Bunny says..."I have a functioning immune system."
Can you eat your hair?
The answer is both yes and no. Some people develop a habit of plucking and eating their hair. It is a condition called "trichophagia". This is potentially a very dangerous condition because your stomach, which is acidic, cannot break down the hair fiber. The hair fiber is quite irritating to the stomach and can cause ulcers. In some cases the eaten hair can collect into a hair ball and build up into a sizeable mass. This can be very dangerous, even life threatening because it irritates the stomach to much. In these cases the only treatment is an operation to remove the hair ball. However, hair fiber is made from keratin and hair keratin is mostly made from the amino acid cysteine. Cysteine is a food additive - particularly used in making pizza bases. One of the food industry's sources of the amino acid cysteine is hair. Hair, mostly collected in China, is the raw material from which cysteine is extracted.
The things we can all learn from the internet...it's amazing.
Barb wrote: "Hey Smetch! Picture this. I'm eating my food, I notice a hair in what I'm chewing. I move it around with my tongue until I can discreetly get it to the front of my mouth and pull it out. I ex..."
I'm rather relieved that you pick it out rather than trying to digest it. Hair balls can be embarrassing.
A friend's son had trichophagia. He grew up to be a TV weather man -- complete with eyebrows and eyelashes. So, it can be overcome.
Hanna wrote: "
Can you eat your hair?
The answer is both yes and no. Some people develop a habit of plucking and eating their hair. It is a condition called "trichophagia". This is potentially a very dangerous ..."
Okay, so I know for a fact this is true. Before I got married I shared a house with my little sister and her husband. His biggest gripe about living with the two of us was that being Greek we both have long, dark, thick hair. Somehow or other his little dog (rat terrier) kept eating our hair (probably from the floor) and he would go out into the back yard to take a dump, but wouldn't come in. He would just wander around the patio all pathetic like with a panicked look on his face. Then Drew would have to go out and pull the piece of poo dangling from the human hair that hadn't fully exited out of his butt. I laughed myself into tears EVERY SINGLE TIME! :) For every time he left the toilet seat up and the drier sheets all over the floor...HA! That's all I'm sayin...HA!
Can you eat your hair?
The answer is both yes and no. Some people develop a habit of plucking and eating their hair. It is a condition called "trichophagia". This is potentially a very dangerous ..."
Okay, so I know for a fact this is true. Before I got married I shared a house with my little sister and her husband. His biggest gripe about living with the two of us was that being Greek we both have long, dark, thick hair. Somehow or other his little dog (rat terrier) kept eating our hair (probably from the floor) and he would go out into the back yard to take a dump, but wouldn't come in. He would just wander around the patio all pathetic like with a panicked look on his face. Then Drew would have to go out and pull the piece of poo dangling from the human hair that hadn't fully exited out of his butt. I laughed myself into tears EVERY SINGLE TIME! :) For every time he left the toilet seat up and the drier sheets all over the floor...HA! That's all I'm sayin...HA!
I'm not sure a thin sheet of plastic would make me feel better about palming a fistful of warm poo...
Barb I hate you. If I evr find out what grosses you out you're gonna be sorry. If anyone else posted gross hair stuff I hate you too but I stopped reading after Barb's.
I'm imagining the sound that cat would be making as you did that Barb.
