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As a buddhist myself, I have to point out that chosing not to act is no less "life" than going out there and keeping busy all the time. It's all life. Sitting here commenting on Goodreads in between doing Facebook games instead of getting a sub job today doesn't mean I'm not living. So I think the guy makes a false dichotomy anyway. Which somebody who's been meditating 40 years ought to know!
i just want to be happy in my own world.
If we're talking about avoiding dealing with things that need to be dealt with, being too busy is just as effective a way of not dealing than not "doing anything."
I don't see how anyone can avoid living their lives, if you're alive you're living it no matter how you go about doing it.
Ken wrote: "I'm not even speaking to mine."HAH!
I'm hiding behind the couch and not returning calls.
Some days, I don't have the energy to be as engaged as other days. And that's okay. I do the basics, and hold off on the rest. And I go home to my quiet apartment and am very happy to be in for the evening watching episodes of Bones.Other days, I want to get things DONE, and those are days I answer the tough questions in my email, and make those phone calls.
You do stuff when you're ready to do it.
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I mean, Arianna will give a column to anybody. Literally anybody. Does your dog have a column? Why not? Sounds like he's avoiding his life.
BunWat wrote: "That man's prose makes my head hurt. Ugh. One of the more refreshing aspects to the comments was the range of thoughtful comments engaged on both sides of the agreement spectrum.
The agreeme..."
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I'm not wasting my life, according to my rules. I don't understand what he's going on about in the article, thank you bunwat for helping to explain. I love a quote from The Peabody Sisters: Three Women Who Ignited American Romanticism which, huh, I thought I had reviewed on here. Something like "there is more than one way to live a beautiful life"
Are you avoiding your life?Yes.
I think many people avoid living their lives because they're in the pursuit of happiness. Somewhere along the line, we get in into our heads that unless we're always having a wonderful time, we aren't happy, so our lives are being wasted. That, of course, can just make us more miserable.I believe that happiness comes from within ourselves: taking delight in the smallest of things, and not from forces outside, such as wealth or status. William Blake once said that we all have the ability to make a heaven out of a hell, or a hell out of a heaven. He was spot on.
Sandy wrote: "I think many people avoid living their lives because they're in the pursuit of happiness. Somewhere along the line, we get in into our heads that unless we're always having a wonderful time, we ar..."100%!!
You can't escape/avoid your life. It follows you wherever you go. Invariably.I find that my life sometimes just happens to me, while other times I am more in charge of making it happen. The older I get, though, the more often I try to step back, pause, and drink in what/who is around me at any given moment. That's because I'm more and more aware that the whole thing is so fleeting.
Blink of an eye fleeting. Zip. Gone.
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My brain saw "hammock" instead of hamlet at first, making you seem even more like you were avoiding life...or, maybe just enjoying a life of leisure.
I love hammocks! In my dream house I have just added one in my study...that way no mildew or spiders. :)
Oh, and, life is just what it is. Sometimes it's fast and sometimes it's slow. But, it's all mine and I live every part of it. I may not be jumping out of airplanes or bungying off of bridges...but I live and I learn and I love, that's enough for me.
Oh, and, life is just what it is. Sometimes it's fast and sometimes it's slow. But, it's all mine and I live every part of it. I may not be jumping out of airplanes or bungying off of bridges...but I live and I learn and I love, that's enough for me.
I Couldn't have put it better than that, Amelia.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/russell...
What do you think?
(I used grad school to avoid my life for many years...God, I miss that.)