* Title: Rules You Might Have Missed: For Adults with ASD * Author(s) name(s): Zachary Strickler * ISBN (or ASIN): ebook no ISBN yet * Publisher: Strickler Career Consultants * Publication Date Year: 2025 * Publication Date Month: June * Publication Date Day: 1st * Page count: 36 * Format ebook * Description: It is easier to get people to listen if you speak their language. These are the rules you might have missed if you are an adult with ASD.
This book is about all the rules that govern how we talk to others and understand what they are saying. It is not a guide on what to say, and to be honest the correct thing to say is always subjective. It also seems fair to say these rules won’t always be right. One could say they are guidelines, but when you miss a guideline there is little punishment. When you mess up one of the rules for communication it does draw that negativity. I think my fellows with ASD can agree that when you break a social rule it can be costly. This book’s purpose is to cover the things that are rules and yet not.
It is only fair to offer you a rule before you start reading. That rule is that communication is about creating predictive models. When we say words, we have expectations of reactions or a lack thereof. A great example is how “Hi, how are you?” has become a greeting, not a question. One could even joke that it is a sign and countersign. For those not into spy movies, the sign and countersign are how spies identify each other as friends without saying obvious things. This book aims to help highlight the rules used to create those models and to add some dry humor to the whole thing.
You may ask how I learned these rules. Well, it is because I have ASD. I wanted to learn how people talked so I started to study them. Every conversation is a small lesson. Each person a teacher. I can say quite happily that I think I have mostly figured it out. I often hear advocates talk about how people should learn how people with ASD talk. I don’t disagree but at some point, we must speak the same language and it’s much easier to learn someone's language than to make them learn yours * Language (for non-English books): English book page link. https://www.stricklercareerconsultant...
* Author(s) name(s): Zachary Strickler
* ISBN (or ASIN): ebook no ISBN yet
* Publisher: Strickler Career Consultants
* Publication Date Year: 2025
* Publication Date Month: June
* Publication Date Day: 1st
* Page count: 36
* Format ebook
* Description: It is easier to get people to listen if you speak their language. These are the rules you might have missed if you are an adult with ASD.
This book is about all the rules that govern how we talk to others and understand what they are saying. It is not a guide on what to say, and to be honest the correct thing to say is always subjective. It also seems fair to say these rules won’t always be right. One could say they are guidelines, but when you miss a guideline there is little punishment. When you mess up one of the rules for communication it does draw that negativity. I think my fellows with ASD can agree that when you break a social rule it can be costly. This book’s purpose is to cover the things that are rules and yet not.
It is only fair to offer you a rule before you start reading. That rule is that communication is about creating predictive models. When we say words, we have expectations of reactions or a lack thereof. A great example is how “Hi, how are you?” has become a greeting, not a question. One could even joke that it is a sign and countersign. For those not into spy movies, the sign and countersign are how spies identify each other as friends without saying obvious things. This book aims to help highlight the rules used to create those models and to add some dry humor to the whole thing.
You may ask how I learned these rules. Well, it is because I have ASD. I wanted to learn how people talked so I started to study them. Every conversation is a small lesson. Each person a teacher. I can say quite happily that I think I have mostly figured it out. I often hear advocates talk about how people should learn how people with ASD talk. I don’t disagree but at some point, we must speak the same language and it’s much easier to learn someone's language than to make them learn yours
* Language (for non-English books): English
book page link. https://www.stricklercareerconsultant...