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Btw be as blunt as you want I just need answers 😭
Based off his actions and what your saying he probably is just with you to get some, if he actually didnt just want you know, he would put in effort and not ignore you for 3+ days. (which is crazy..) AND if you are the only one texting and putting in the work, that should tell you something about how he feels about this relationship. Maybe try to talk to him about it, and say how you feel about it. Anywaysss i hope this helped somewhat maybe
sounds one sided. him not putting in effort and you trying too. I agree with bri talk to him about how you feel and just be blunt with him.
I’ve tried to like ask him what’s up a couple of time and he just says he’s been out of it and tired but idk maybe I’m delulu or yk maybe yall are right🤦🏻♀️THISSS is why I just need to stay single
Sounds like he is using you. It’s definitely one sided which isn’t fair to you. I had something similar happen to me years ago. The guy I had a crush on would text me all the time till he got what he wanted. I didn’t hear from him after that. It just made me feel so used at the time. I would confront him to see where his head is at. If he’s not giving you the answers you want or like to hear. Drop him like a bad habit especially if he isn’t making the effort. Also actions speak louder than words.
Hurts like a mthfff to hear all this but ik it’s necessary, relationship celibacy will be put in place after this lol
sounds like he's making up excuses "I'm tired" too tired to text what is that, that's bull.
He does it quite a bit. Sometimes he’ll be super lovey dovey and nice and sweet and then some I won’t even exist to him I mean he’ll wink at me every now and then but that’s something he alwaysss does
maybe i'm just manipulative but i would pull a "if you don't want a relationship lmk bc I'm cool with just hanging out and stuff, i just wanna know" then maybe he feels comfortable enough to say wtv and then drop him😭
I’m going to his house later tdy bc he’s working on my car and I’m gonna try to talk to him, my toxic side wants to say “if you wanna be friends w benefits fine, but don’t get mad when I get bored and get in a real relationship” (he’s not a fan of the thought of me with other guys, he’s seen me cry over 1 too many before we got together) but the other part says “let him do what he wants and if he wants to talk we can but until then ig I’m js stuck like this”
if you think you can continue like that w no doubts then yeah ofc but i feel like you already think you're compromising for what you want. if that's the case its better to leave and if he comes back he comes back, just don't do it in hopes that he does, do it bc its what you're sure you want and can live with.sidenote: he's just a guy, and your worth isn't defined by him or anyone else also don't let me or anyone decide for you, usually we already know what we want it just takes someone telling us the opposite to figure it out. good luck! <3
Thank you so so much for the advice ☺️ I’ll let yall know how it goes or doesn’t, hoping for the best :)
from a 35 year old lady perspective I don't think your delulu. If he can't text you back within 24 hours he's just using you. trust me, when a guy is into you, you will know. if you feel something's off then something is probably off. When it comes to sex stuff I stopped doing that stuff until I got an agreement to date exclusively. it helps weed out who's using you by a substantial amount..
that's true^wait did y'all do it then he stopped talking or have y'all never done that ?
Yea we did and we have, it’s kinda hard to explain. We’ll do our thing and he’ll be super sweet and it never feels like it’s just for him, but then he’ll like stop talking to me mainly in the first day (now part of this could be because he’s paranoid someone’s going to find out, he’s my brothers bsf so no one knows) but he’ll be more distant and then slowly come back to normal after 2-3 days. He’s normal for less than a week and even sometimes we’ll do stuff and he’s normal but idk it’s so confusing
Anddd update:I said I would talk to him when I go to get my car. I was picking up our dog and my brother and him were leaving for a mini vacation, he never spoke to me once except for giving me my keys and him asking me to go grab our dog. Beyond that he stayed away and near my brother. Might try again when they get back Thursday
who knows guys are wack. if he isn't talking to you but he'll have s*x with you that's bull. and he's def just using you for that. you should try to talk to him more tho. but all these "I'm tired" excuses are not making the problem any better.
maybe he feels guilty afterwards and wants to not make it obvious?? for the fact your brother doesn't know (i'm assuming) If that's the case and you guys are keeping it a secret he'll probably continue acting that way until you either stop or just tell ppl. So I assume in the end it's really your call if you want to keep going like this, tell ppl or drop him
dont blame me for my reference😭 but if travis kelce & taylor swift can make time in there day for each other he can text you back within 3 days
@dyannaYea tbh that could make a lot of sense, and I do badly wish we could tell ppl, my brother would 100% absolutely murder me, so I could ask him if it’s guilt? Usually he’s super open with me and while yes he avoids questions like the plague, he has never once lied to me so ik I’ll get the truth out of him at least
why would your brother hate you if he knew y'all were dating ?
1. He doesn’t like the thought of me being allowed to date without his permission 2. He wants B to be just his friend
without his permission he's your brother ??? how old is he, your brother ?
He’s 17 aka 16 months older than me. We grew up in Pentecostalism so the men have rule over women and if a girl doesn’t have a father the brother becomes the man of the house (trustttt I dont believe in any of this but he still does)
Yea it’s a strict Christian religion
darn. that sucks. I'm like who could even partake in that.
It’s definitely an interesting experience
So it’s been abt 2 months and we are together:) kinda..
I am worried that he might be with me just to do stuff (ifykwim) like some things will happen and then he will barely talk to me for 3 days and then we’ll go back to normal, lately it’s been like hella work to get him to even text me when he used to talk to me every day no matter what. Anddd we’re going on vacation with my family in December so we need to get this figured out…
Am I delulu for thinking he might just be with me to get sum?