What should I do about this guy ?

[Romaaanee]

Hey girls I need an advice about a guy I met. Here’s the story 

Sooooo he is my age (17) and that is a good point. 

We met at work, we take care of children in a summer camp. He quickly made me understand that he liked me and I ended up going to see the sunrise with him, we called it a date. We talked about our lives for three hours and it was really cool. I thought about this moment all day and in the evening he offered me to sleep under the stars. We are in the depths of the French countryside so we slept in a field, I slept in his arms I loved the moment. Nothing sexual happened, we just slept together and talked. He complimented me and said he loved me. I panicked and I said 'me too'. I went home the next day, I was sad to leave. I really missed him and we continued to chat by messages. 

The thing is, I had time to think and I’m not sure I love him. He is super nice and handsome (and TALL) but I do not see myself announcing to my parents/ friends that I am in a relationship and especially I am not sure I want to be with someone. (I do not like to judge from that but his Instagram is too embarrassing). We will be able to see each other a few times in Paris but not every weekend either because we live at opposite sides of the capital.

I have already prepared a letter to tell him that I prefer to wait before we officiate, I will see if I give it to him at the end. 

I’m going back to work tomorrow so I’ll see him again (he extended his contract just for me)! I am super happy because we will spend the night under the stars again :). But I will spend 2 weeks with him, he will tell me lots of love stuff and I will not know what to answer him. It bothers me a little because I don’t want to hurt him. My question in the end is what do I do when we have to leave? We stop everything and I break his heart  or we hang out once in a while knowing that I have doubts about my feelings? 

I am afraid to love him only because I like to receive attention (no boy has ever been interested in me). 

Bonus question: he doesn’t want to do it before the wedding, but can I kiss him?

What should I do ?

Thanks for helping

[✨sofia✨]

Okay can I just say this sounds like a book

Anyway, I think you should follow your heart. If you don’t want a relationship and you tell him that, if he loves you he will understand. I don’t have relationship experience but I hope this helps, best of luck <3

[☆° alimxx °☆]

That's such a sweet story of sleeping under the stars ahhhh <3

I would definitely say you should communicate your feelings with him for sure. You dont want to seem like you're leading him on and nor do you want to be u comfortable all the time when he says the love stuff!! If you dont want a relationship, then you should definitely tell him as best as you can, and try to explain it to him. As much as you dont want to hurt him, being transparent is the best thing you can do. However, if you do want to pursue this, I feel you should tell him your feelings and hesitations perhaps. If he loves you then he'll wait for you to get where he is.

wish you all the best <33

[paola_likes_to_read]

Okay… that was a lot of information so this is my advice:
First I want to mention that every fist kiss is supper weird, (mine was at 19 with a dunk dude, he kissed me with thong which was awful since I had no idea how to kiss. Thank god like a minute later someone caught us)

Okay now in gonna say my advice:
Just talk to him, communication is the key of everything. Meme him know how you feel. Don’t worry about the “bad” kiss, it was your fist kiss for both of you, is okay to be nervios and weird.
And about saving himself for marriage, that’s totally fine and valid, every one has their own ideologys about sex, and that totally valid.

Remember, you are young, it’s okay to make mistakes. Live life wild and free, but always remember to take care of your self and your heart.

I hope we have an update soon 🤭

(This is my advice as a 19 year old virgin, who has never had a boyfriend)

Pd: English is not my first language, if a have any mistake pls let me know🩷✨🇲🇽

[•̩̩͙˚⋆Sohani✧･ﾟ:]

I think you should let him know about your doubts. I know it takes a lot of guts to confront someone but it is necessary especially if you enjoy that person's company and don't wanna hurt them in the long run. You can leave him a text explaining how you truly feel and let him decide for himself. If he truly loves you, he should be willing to wait.

[✨sofia✨]

I’m sorry that it all didn’t work out well, but this is definitely for the best. You deserve so much better girl!!! Best of luck to whatever happens next <3

[Romaaanee]

Thankssssss ! Wish you all the best

[GigiGarside1422]

It's good u found this out before it got too far. Narcissism is hard to deal with, especially if it's someone close to u. You did the right things and I'm sorry it turned out this way. The fist message did sound like it came straight out of a book but all in all. You stayed true to yourself and that's the most important

[Romaaanee]

it was fun at the beginning but I was uncomfortable in the ending . I do not regret my decision

[ESME]

I think you just have to remember that you were never sure about your feelings for him from the beginning and that is your gut giving you a clue. Just forget the whole thing. Solving his problems was never your responsibility to begin with, so no need to feel guilty about it. Just think of this as a narrow escape...this guy seems like he has some serious issues.

[Noa (semi ia)]

I agree with everything ESME RALDA said. you deserve better girl!!

[[deleted user]]

guys! I'm not trying to have a main character moment but I'm so iffy abt my bf, he's like popular and cute, baseball boy you know how it is. I completely fell for him then he got with me? I'm not saying I'm not worth him or anything but like I need advice because I feel like I might be getting my feelings played with, and I'm his first gf..