Part Three: BOOBY TRAPS: The Trap: "Bitchy, Bossy, Too Ambitious"

[Jessica]

QUESTION: Have you ever been told "You're too ambitious" (and it was meant to be taken as a character flaw)? How did you react?

Excerpt from Part Three: BOOBY TRAPS: The Trap: "Bitchy, Bossy, Too Ambitious"

"Behold the catch-22 of women and power. To be successful a woman must be liked, but to be liked she must not be too successful: her likability eroded by her professional status."

The Hack: Make Female Power the Norm

"As economist Sylvia Ann Hewlett once told me, it's not women who are the problem - it's that we still define leadership in male terms. So use that sweetness, that ambition, or the combination of the two, to get the fuck in power. Make ambition a female trait. Chip away at that glass ceiling and don't apologize for it. And when you've trailblazed your way to the top, remember your FFC duty: to bring other women with you."