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Girl, Stop Apologizing
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But after years of wrecking my brain, I finally came to the conclusion that I have to do what I like and be okay with my personal pleasures and what made me happy. Yes, I have mastered some areas really well and other areas not so much but I am a work in progress. So instead of focusing so much on what family members feel I should be "doing" with my life, or the gossip that seems to smack me in the face in the beauty/makeup industry I decided to take a step back and keep my eyes on my own values and not worry so much about my shortcomings.
Which brings me to the statement " Being a proud working mother instead of buying into the special brand of oppression found inside of mommy guilt". No, I am not a mother but I am often looked down upon because I do not want children. The mommy guilty, is very much still real. I get comments like " WOW! you're, a very selfish women, you are made to have children." or "What if your husband leave you?" I have never had the urge to give birth, and the thought of baby fever makes me cringe! So you can imagine that blatant sighs of disgust that I receive if I disclose that I recently got sterilized via fallopian tube removal (I forgot the technical term). Just because something is for someone else, does not mean it's for me. Some women were meant to be mothers and give birth and I'm not opposed to that for someone else, that just not for me. In the future, if I decided to change my mind, I will adopt or hire a surrogate, but since I was 9 years old I couldn't imagine giving birth to a child and being a biological mother.
Moving on... I completely, love the idea of embracing ME! Despite what others think or cannot see my vision. Furthermore, I agree that women are brutal on themselves vs. men but I also understand they're so many reasons why (sexual basis, gender expectations, etc).
I like how Rachel briefly touched upon self-worth and asked questions like "what if you weren't raised to believe in yourself"? I think she is on to something especially when it comes to setting goals and sticking to them. Its hard to stick to something if you don't believe in yourself.
My takeaways and what her goal is for the book is to change the perspective of women around the world to use their potential by letting go of fear, being able to handle real adult conversations and being held accountable for our actions, but not apologizing for "who" we are and the "dreams" that is locked inside of us.
Hello everyone!I finished the introduction and must say it was an easy read. Rachel’s explanation on the genesis of our learned behavior through our childhood experiences with seeking attention was very spot on. Understanding who you are and why you may have certain behaviors can help to change habits or behaviors that are a hindrance to achieving your “what ifs”. I absolutely love the way Rachel shares parts of her journey. I definitely looking forward to ready the rest of this book.
I am so excited to get started and move through the book club with you all. So let's get started shall we?
-Please introduce yourself to the group and answer the following questions:
1. Do You have a "what if" of your own? What prevents you from pursuing it ?
2. What do you think Rachel mean when she says that "women are afraid of themselves"? Is there anything about yourself that you worry other people might judge you for?
-As we proceed we will break the book down in sections so for example, we will discuss this book in three parts.
1. Part I: Excuses to let go of (9 excuses/small chapters).
2. Part II: Behaviors to adopt ( 7 Behaviors)
3. Part III: Skills to Acquire (6 skills)
Each Part will have a one week duration to complete, so once everyone is added I will upload the dates.