How would you handle an abusive relationship?

[Melanie]

In "The Color Purple" Celie usually talks about her abusive relationships. She mentions how her stepfather & husband abuses her both physically & mentally. Celie also said that she never fought back because she's not brave enough.

My question is that "How would you handle an abusive relationship?"

[Yeng]

I wouldn't fight back if it's pointless and will put me in really bad shapes, but I will take action for myself though if it puts my life in danger. If possible, let him see his mistakes, himself, by being abusive to his wife.

[Chia Lia]

Honestly, I would not know how to handle this situation. Because at the time it was supposedly okay to abuse your wife because it was like "teaching her a lesson" to show who was the boss. Which is just morally wrong. No one should get beaten the way she did. But, I also think that if she had enough courage to fight back and stand up for herself just like Sofia did then, thats how i would've handled the situation. Fight back, or just run away.

[Christina]

I think if it were me I wouldn't really know what I would do in the situation maybe I would runaway or maybe I would be too scared to runaway and I might just live like that. I can't really exactly tell what I would do.

[Pa]

To be honest, I have never seen or been in an abuse relationship before; therefore i would not know how to answer this question, but if were to happen, I would stand up for myself. Standing up means protecting my pride and that is what's most important to me.

[Angel]

No matter what rules and laws applied or social expectations were placed, there are billions of people in this world and no one should ever settle for someone who abuses them, verbally and physically. In Celie's case, it was both and it saddening, but Shug Avery came to her rescue. I would leave, I would never stay with someone who would even think of doing what they did to Celie. No matter the circumstances.

[Kp]

I would remove myself from that situation. It is only hurting me personally, and if you're getting abused you can see how much you're actually valued to him. So I'd stand up for myself and leave for the better.

[Michelle]

I would just stay and suffer the pain because I know that if I make a move or act weird around him, he'll know and definitely come after me and try to do anything to harm me. When it comes to the right time, I will stand up and have my courage to leave him forever of what he have done to me in my life. In the book, Celie thought that she'll hate Mr.__ forever but, she realize that Mr.__ isn't who she thought he was. She still forgive him and finally met the real Mr.__.

[Jocelyn]

It doesn't matter if it's accepted by society for women to be beaten during that time period, I would try to somehow get away, either run, get some cops all up in there, fight (argue) back, whatever I had to do to get away (but obviously not break any laws, like...kill him) because I will not tolerate being abused and it's NOT okay at all for anyone to be abused, especially by a loved one. I wish more people had the courage to get away, and not be hurt emotionally and physically like this.

[Zongsia]

How "I" would handle an abusive relationship is get out of it. Probably go on the show Doctor Phil.

[Emilee]

Celie is the type who doesn't really care for her self, she puts people in front of her own self. If I were her I would just stay because something in her seems to care a bit for Albert and ever since living with Albert she was able to meet new people such as Shug, Harpo, Sophia, etc. Either way if she gets out of the abusive relationship it wouldn't be any different with living with her father and Nettie.

[Pa Chia]

I would've fought back; speak up for what's right or just run away. I hate abuse/being abused and I can't just let it slip by like nothing. But since women didn't really have a right to do so at that time, I would somehow do something that would show him what his mistakes were and hope he learns from it.

[Nashaunta]

I tell myself that I would immediately break it off and that I deserve better but I think about all the people in abusive relationships and how they're in delusion about how love should be. Would I ever find myself like that? I hope that I would be smart enough to have a clear head in that kind of situation.