The Hive - whatever we want it to be about

[Ela]

ROBIN? ARE YOU SERIOUS?

[Robin]

This isn't news! Boy-next-door, Travis is not.

[Ela]

IT'S NEWS TO ME! And no he is not! He is so much more!

[Robin]

Ela wrote: "IT'S NEWS TO ME! And no he is not! He is so much more!"

Then he's all yours. And Maryse's!

[Nay]

Like HTKARS, I also thought Beautiful Disaster was 'meh'. And it's funny that I read them back in May of 2012 just few days apart.

ETA: And my ''mehness' wasn't because of Travis. I loved him--it was the story line in general.

[Nay]

But as I told Maryse, I'd be willing to give it another shot as well. Maybe I was having a 'meh' week? Who knows???

[Lisa]

I have not yet read Beautiful Disaster...do I need to turn in my membership card?

[Paula]

No Lisa - you just have to read it and read it soon lol

[Nay]

Paulaaaaaa......

Speaking of need to read now....I happened to be looking at it last week--can't remember why, but is it correct that you have not read The Hunger Games?????? And Amy? And TESSA?!

How could y'all not have read this awesomest of awesome books?!

Or maybe you read it and just didn't rate it??

[Ela]

Oh now people haven't read the Hunger Games? And if they do they'll probably DNF

[Ela]

Yes Lisa, I believe not reading BD is a card turn inner....

[Jan]

Yup I liked Beautiful Disaster too, altho I reckon I didn't LURVE it quite as much as some others. Am I one of the cool kids now?

[Tessa]

It's on my friend's list. I just get tummy twisty because of the idea of kids dying. I don't think I should have watched it before reading it.

[Jan]

I read the first Hunger Games book and it is a powerful read, but a bit too YA for me. Ironic it feels YA, considering there's all the killing. Hard to categorise those books.

[Leslie]

Hunger Games is one of my all time faves!!! Phew! I am earning a little street cred here.

[Paula]

Not read Hunger Games.....

[Ela]

It did feel too YA and that is why I kept putting the book down but one day I said enough and read straight through all books and never looked back...loved! Now the Divergent series had so much potential and then book 3 and that ending happened!

[Tessa]

Ugh, don't remind me of that ending. I know why it happened, but it's seriously a STUPID reason.

[Ela]

I wonder if that's what's prolonging the release of the movie? Will it be true to THAT ending?

[Grey]

I read and loved Hunger Games. I read the first Divergent book...was not terribly impressed and did not continue.

[Nay]

I read the Divergent books a couple of years ago, but I don't remember the ending!

ETA: Just looked it up. Now I remember! I had totally forgotten!

[Nay]

Lisa, Leslie and anyone else who wants to join us on Wed, I just started a thread for the End of Day BR.

I asked Jean to join us too, because it's one of her May challenge books!

[Jan]

Renee wrote: "Lisa, Leslie and anyone else who wants to join us on Wed, I just started a thread for the End of Day BR.

I asked Jean to join us too, because it's one of her May c..."

Creepy cover. *shudders*

[Ela]

Jan130 wrote: "Renee wrote: "Lisa, Leslie and anyone else who wants to join us on Wed, I just started a thread for the End of Day BR.

I asked Jean to join us too, because it's on..."

but really good series!

[Grey]

I may join in...

[Leslie]

Hi Tasha! I was going to say no about the haircut if you thought it would be too much upkeep, etc. as I didnt let my son choose those things yet at that age. However, reading your comment further if she is having thoughts that she wishes she was a boy, that is a different story and I dont have experience with that. But I bet the pixie cut would be adorable!

[Lisa]

Tasha - just my humble opinion. At that age, they need our guidance around things that they might not realize could inadvertently hurt them, due to the fact that kids are horribly cruel. They need to be allowed to make choices, that's how they learn. But a haircut, while not a permanent thing, is something not easily quickly changed if it turns out to have been a bad choice. Clothes is a good compromise, activities, choice of toys, etc. It must be really hard for her if she identifies more with boy things...and it might be a phase, but it might just be who she is.

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That is hard Tasha.
My first response was just cut it, its hair and grows back. However, if you feel like she will be bullied that adds another layer. Though, you want her to be confident in who she is. Also it is summer so by fall it will of grown a bit if she ends up disliking it. On the other hand if she feels like she is a boy and is more comfortable that way that is really something to take in consideration.
I wish I had the face for a pixie. I love how Audrey Hepburn, Mia Farrow, Michelle Williams look with them.

[[deleted user]]

This
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And this

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And this are so cute
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[Tessa]

I can see her wanting it short, and I'd go for that, but maybe have her compromise with something that fits her face better and more, is low maintenance. I was allowed to choose the style of my hair at a young age, but with the realization that, if it's long, it needs to be maintained.

There are some seriously cute, non-maintenance hair cuts that she can try. My nephew had them, (and he started as my niece when he was younger) and he hated doing his hair then. It was a brush and go thing. And he looked very feminine with his hair short. It just depends on the style.

[Grey]

Tasha, this is a hard one... have you let her talk with an impartial third party... I hesitate to use the word counselor because I dont think she needs counseling... just someone outside the situation... that may be able to give her an impartial opinion? I agree... maybe do the haircut in stages for the summer? I love pixie cuts on girls though. I could never get away with it because I have naturally curly hair.

[Leslie]

I think that sounds like a good plan Tasha! Let us know how the cut comes out. I bet she will be adorable. Those cuts Bev posted were so cute.

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Grey, I do too. But some just look so cute.

https://www.hairstyle.guru/wp-content...

http://www.short-haircut.com/wp-conte...

http://www.short-haircut.com/wp-conte...

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[Robin]

I had a pixie through most of my childhood and hated it, but then when I was in HS and Fatal Attraction came out, the little girl had a pixie and I thought man, my mom was on to something. I tried it again in my 20s and while it was cute and super easy to fix, I didn't feel very feminine. I ended up dressing as "a girl" that Halloween.

[[deleted user]]

Lol. Its so funny. I had short hair as a kid my mom just always cut it that way. Definitely looked more boy than pixie...

But this alway looks feminine to me

http://www.short-haircut.com/wp-conte...

Though it sounds like Tasha's daughter is not wanting to look feminine.

I started caring way to much what others think at way too young of an age. Very shy and worried about people seeing me. I would practically dress to disappear. I still fight against it as an adult. Like, its hot but if I braid my hair up will people look at me.....then no I better not. Im 38 and want to kick myself that I still do this.

[Jan]

I had a pixie haircut pretty much through my whole childhood, probably because my hair is so thick it would otherwise be untameable. I used to walk the long walk to the hairdressers shop by my skinny little self, in my red muu-muu with the scottie dog on the front, or maybe in my candy striped shorts, with a note from mum in my hot little hand. The note always said 'short and tapered', and I had to give it to the nice German ladies (named Olga and Erica) who cut my hair. It was years before I found out what tapered meant.

I never minded the haircut, although I didn't have any say in it! The fringe (bangs) used to be cut so short that it was always embarrassing for a little while until it grew in a bit though.

I always let my own kids have their haircut however they wanted. Thank goodness my middle son soon grew out of the short-lived fad for 'undercuts'. *shudders* But I had 3 boys. Maybe it's different with girls. Mine were never too fussed really, about hair or clothes. Made life a bit easier for a parent, I guess.

[Lisa]

I had a pixie cut when I was 5 or 6...my favorite portrait of me from this time was one of those muted out and then painted pictures (the ones where they add rosy color to your cheeks and stuff) wearing an orange and white daisy jumper holding a daisy. Damn I was adorable!!! Ahhhhh memories!!

[Jan]

Lisa wrote: "I had a pixie cut when I was 5 or 6...my favorite portrait of me from this time was one of those muted out and then painted pictures (the ones where they add rosy color to your cheeks and stuff) we..."

I bet you were cute as a button.

[Ela]

http://www.maryse.net/editorial/reade...

[Robin]

Tasha, that sounds like an incredibly confusing and difficult situation to navigate when you only want the best for your daughter. But it seems like you're doing a fantastic (and honest) job and I only wish there were more moms like you. <3

[Leslie]

Tasha, the haircut sounds cute! I am glad she likes it and since she is wearing it with confidence I bet there will be no issues in school.

[Jan]

Tasha, it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job. And you are thoughtful, and you CARE! This makes you a special kind of wonderful mum. I'm a teacher and I've sadly seen a lot of self-centred, uncaring parents over the years (many great ones too, of course). But you see these f*cked up kids, then you meet their parents and you think, yeah...... OK.

So believe in yourself! Parenting is never easy, but it sounds like you are doing great! I'm glad the haircut worked out well.

[[deleted user]]

Tasha, there is no way that wouldn't be hard. Second R and Jan.
It's great thst the cut made her feel so good aboit herself.

[Grey]

I'm with them ^, You're a great mom! This parenting stuff is HARD. And they didn't come with manuals, LOL! We do the best we can...and it sounds like you are doing a great job with her. Kudos to you for being an understanding and compassionate mom...and to her for knowing what she wants and having the chutzpah to ask for it. We're here whenever you need us!

[Ela]

I agree, you are a great mom, but since I'm not a mom I don't feel right commenting or advising.

[Lisa]

I'm not a mom either, but I sure had one...and THAT was great parenting. Loving, accepting, thoughtful about your decision...what more could a kid want? I hope you feel proud of your moment, because you should!!