Fans of Interracial Romance discussion
note: This topic has been closed to new comments.
Archived Threads
>
Revision to Group Rules
date
newest »
newest »
Mod
Mod
message 4:
by
Danielle The Book Huntress , Sees Love in All Colors
(last edited Jul 16, 2009 10:12AM)
(new)
Mod
Can we come out of time out now? please.......Well I snuck out, Eugenia and Maya have to stay longer lol ha ha ha
Mod
I don't know why I was in time out..I was a good leeetle gyal!!lawdamercy!!!
Oh yeah I had to keep an eye on Eugenia and Maya
lol
Ummm excuse me!!!! There is no reading in time out!!
message 9:
by
Danielle The Book Huntress , Sees Love in All Colors
(last edited Jul 16, 2009 05:41PM)
(new)
Mod
Mod
Danielle you can't be soft on them...I will be the prison guard..I have no problem with thatNo you must suffer..no reading period
Mod
oh lawddd havis mercy!!Don't call Immigration...oh wait you said Amnesty never mind......
oh lawdddddddddddDon't call Amnesty they might call Immigration and deport my rass
Mod
Amnesty would call "The Man" on you. :P
What??? tackle me? I am from the Caribbean..I have a cutlass
Mod
and lmao, danielle - "the man" haha"
Actually I meant they wouldn't call 'the man' on you. It's obvious that you scream political prisoner. :)
you know what a cutlass is? lol not many people know what I am talking about lol
Well I was born in a diff country...they are very quick to deport us
dreamwild1985 wrote: "dont worry sharon, we'll hide u!"Thanks!!
Hide me where there is food ok?
Mod
Where were you born, Sharon (forgive me,I'm nosy).
Mod
I can't tell anyone what to do, but I wish we'd all just be nice to each other.
Don't ever worry about asking me something I like to know about people as well. I was born in Barbados :)
dreamwild1985 wrote: "i just got back, so for once i know i didn't do it! lol *smiles* b/c time out with sharon is no fun:-P
poor danielle, don't be stressed..."
Hey!!!
I run a good time out room...
Maya be nice!!!What is everyone up to tonight?
My husband and I are watching Eureka and before that it was Royal Pains and before that Burn Notice!!
lol ha ha ha no you are not watching Sponge Bob lol ha ha ha that is funny thoughWhat bookshelves?
I need to go pick out my outfit for tomorrow..having a girls day outSee you tomorrow Maya have a great night!!
Just came back from a wedding. Sweet. Maya, it's about time you created those shelves! LOL. I've been wondering what you've read. Maybe I can leech from your shelves, hehe.
LOL, Eugenia, I think you're on a roll. Wedding was nice. The bride is so sweet and she was beautiful. Food was yummy South Indian and it was pretty entertaining when the bride's brother started dancing. He started pop locking, LOL. He's got some moves, LOL.
LOL, Eugenia, you bet. Yep, it was a traditional Indian wedding. :)
LOL. It's basically a wedding reception. Er, several of them. xD Thanks, Maya, will do. ;)
Eugenia how was your date?????????????Is he hot?????
sorry......
No, I'm not Indian. Just have a lot of Indian friends. :)
Mod
Life is too short! If our heads start to flame like a fire ball, lets just back away and dip it in cold water and take a big time out, before coming to the playground again.
I like tension in a book. I don't like tension on groups!
Mod
Mod
message 37:
by
Danielle The Book Huntress , Sees Love in All Colors
(last edited Jan 05, 2010 07:54AM)
(new)
Mod
It's pretty obvious that we aren't all going to be best buds on this group. Having said that, I will once again reiterate that you need to keep your personal issues off this board. If there is a member on this group you don't like, ignore that person. Snide comments are being noticed. I'm not your mother, neither is Arch or New_User. If you want to have your hands slapped, we will do that for you, but it's not very respectful to you as an adult. If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. Keep your snide comments, backbiting, and innuendoes to yourself. If a post in a thread seems to be going in that direction, from this point on, you will receive a private message, and your post, if inappropriate, is at risk for being deleted. If you consider this censorship, then so be it. What it is, is asking you to show self-control and maturity. When a person cannot do that, then authority has to step in. Don't unleash Big Sister on your back! Exhibit self-control and show respect to yourself and others.
There will be no alienating or putting down of members. This is a group, this is not a bunch of factions. If you want to form your own group, feel free to leave and do that. If you want to be part of a community, then accept responsibility for maintaining a community environment. Even if you and others happen to disagree with what someone else says, that doesn't mean that everyone who agrees with you is against the other person.
Freedom of discussion is important around here. However, it seems that there are certain hot subjects. If a discussion devolves to in-fighting, then a moderator will take control of that discussion, possibly closing it. If you don't like the direction that a discussion is taking because you disagree, don't take it upon yourself to change the subject. Perhaps other members are not finish saying what needs to be said. Only a moderator can close a discussion, so if you're not a moderator, then you shouldn't be trying to close down a discussion. Excuse yourself from the discussion and move onto something else. If you feel that there is an issue that needs to be addressed, please message a moderator off the list. It does not have to be myself. Remember there are two other moderators: Arch and New_User.
If you have a personal issue with someone on the board, you have some choices available to you. You can try to approach this person off the board and come to an accord, you can leave the group, or you can ignore that person. You do not need to respond to any posts that this person makes, as Arch said, trying to get in as many snide comments as possible the whole time. That's really immature behavior, and it's beneath all of us as adults.
Unfortunately, I feel like there is a lot of petty behavior going on, and I really dislike that. I'm sure other members feel similiarly. I realize that some members don't respect my leadership because I don't believe in throwing my weight around. That's fine. If you really don't like the way this board is run, I totally understand if you want to leave the group. I'm not trying to run anyone off, but I do think it's important to make it clear that you are not obligated to stay here. I am not going to change the way I deal with things to make anyone happy, if I don't agree with the way they would handle things. We are wired the way we are supposed to be, like it or lump it. Just like I am not asking you to change who you are, don't expect myself or anyone else to change to make you happy.
I may not be popular for my approach of not responding to posts that I don't feel that I can respond to in a polite way or by agreeing to something I don't agree with. If that makes me unpopular, than so be it, but at the same time, it is in the interest of keeping the peace. Personally, I don't feel like the world will end if my opinion isn't out there for every one to see. You don't have to follow that philosophy, but if you want to say what you think, do it in a polite, respectful manner.
Discussions that get out of control will be ended, and the threads will be closed. Inappropriate posts will be deleted. If you don't want to be censored, than you need to make sure that you are following the rules and respecting other members.
If you cannot disagree with someone in a polite manner, than don't post. Move onto another thread. I know it's hard to bite your lip when you feel strongly about something, but believe me, just because you don't state your opinion on every subject doesn't mean that your opinion doesn't matter. That doesn't mean you cannot say what you believe, but do it in a polite way (and without putting down someone else or their beliefs). If you are too 'hot' to do that, walk away. Come back when you can post in a respectful manner.
I don't want to have to remove members, but I will do it, and any moderator has the authority to remove a member for justified reasons. That does not mean because they don't like that member. It means, a member who absolutely refuses to follow the group rules.
If there is an issue with a member's behavior on the board that is not serious enough to cause removal, you will receive a warning in a private message off the board. Take it seriously. That is your only warning. The next infraction probably will lead to removal. If you are removed, you will be notified by private message. There will be no calling out of members on the board, other than saying that a post was inappropriate and it was deleted. That's as far as it will go on the list.
Everyone should consider this a warning. You will not receive a personal message at this time because I want everyone to understand what the rules are and the issues we are dealing with right now. I urge to you consider your own behavior even though this message is general. But from this point on, if your behavior is out of line with the goals of this group, then you will be notified by private message.
I am laying my cards on the table here. This ugliness is not going to continue. If you want to be a part of the group, than you need to commit to following these rules. If you don't, you are free to leave this group. You will be missed for your positive contribution to the group, but not at the expense of discord on this group.
Let me reiterate Moderator Authority:
-I am the group owner and by default a moderator.
-However, Arch and New_User (and any future moderators) have just as much authority on this board (with the exception of deleting this group), and they are expected to act impartially in the interest of this group. They will do so. If you don't like decisions made, you are free to appeal them, but go through the moderator who has made the decision first. Out of fairness to all members, I ask that the moderators let me know if they are about to remove a member. If I feel that this decision is being made fairly, I will agree to it. If not, I will ask the moderator not to remove the member. If the situation warrants it, the person will be put on probation, which means they are at risk for removal if their behavior continues to be disruptive.
-Other moderator authority:
*Closing discussions
*Moving threads to various folders
*Other activities designed for the maintenance of the board.
*Deleting inappropriate posts and threads.
*Messaging members who have acted in a manner that necessitates a warning. (I ask that the moderator just drop me a line if this is necessary so that I am aware of what is going on).
Things that any member can do
*Start a discussion thread
*Create a poll
*Lead a book discussion
*Add books to the bookshelf (please do not delete a book that has been added by another member)
*Post to an open discussion thread
If you wish to become a moderator, message me off list. If you want to be a moderator, please be aware that you will be asked to be impartial and put the needs of the board ahead of your own personal goals on this group.
Thank you for reading and adhering to these rules.
Mod
My email is always open. I may take an action and I would like it if people address me for my action.
Mod
It's not asking for much at all. Everyone has a duty to try and make this as harmonious a place to hang out as possible. Members and moderators a like. We both have to do our parts otherwise we'll achieve nothing. It's good to keep ourselves abreast of that fact. I'm glad you've upgraded the rules to achieve the goals you've set out for this group.
Damn I keep missing the good stuff, I have not read about anyone putting someone dowm. I read about book someone readed and didn't like it. Hell if I don't like a book usually don't say anything about it, I kick it to the curb. Alot of my favorite authors writes good book but sometimes one of them wrote a book that was not very good. Hell it suck! I read 20 pages and that was enough. No I am not telling. Only 5 people know that book suck thats me GOD JESUE and my kids.
Mod
Please feel free to start a thread for your book in the promo section.
This topic has been frozen by the moderator. No new comments can be posted.
1. No accusations, criticism, or negative comments about someone's personality and what you don't like about them. I don't know how else to put it. If you don't like something about someone's personality, I'm sorry. That probably won't change with you posting a page of what's wrong with that person. If you have an issue with another member, take it off the list. Keep the subject on topic. In other words, handle it in a one-on-one manner. Goodreads has a private email function. If it is clear that members cannot manage to get past personal conflicts and continue to bring those into posts, those members may be removed from this group for the sake of the entire group dynamic.
2. Agree to disagree. I know it's hard when someone doesn't see things your way. You might feel alienated. We are all different. We are not always going to agree. It's a good thing that there are so many people with different views in the world. If we cannot disagree without getting personal, then we probably should just delete this group now. I don't want to do that, and I don't think anyone else does either. This may be unpopular but no quoting what someone said in a previous post so that you can tell them what they said was wrong or what the flaws were in what they said, or for whatever reason. If the person said something that you don't understand, ask for clarification. It's fairly inflammatory to quote someone's words back to them. Don't do it.
3.Please place a spoiler space if you are discussing major plot elements.
4.Feel free to start a thread for a topic. Keep in mind some topics are more 'inflammatory' than others. The rules about personal arguments still applies.
5.This forum is about unity. That doesn't mean we'll always see things the same way. Treat each other with respect. Let me repeat that. Treat each other with respect.
Respect doesn't mean having the same beliefs as another person. Respect means esteem for others.