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I can't offer any advice MT other than to give you hugs and hope it gets better
Hugs from me too. xx
Hugs from over here, too.
Big hugs MTM, it must be hard looking after your parents and all the travelling when McMini is still so young. As Jim says "this too will pass", once your parents are sorted and you have a routine going, i.e. sending £X ever 2 weeks type thing, it'll be much easier.
Thanks all, and yeh, I know it'll get better it's just so shit right now. Was going out to lunch today but it's been cancelled. Kind of good, because I'll have more time, kind of bad because it was the girl's birthday and I'd bought her a minature rose. I'll have to deliver the bloody thing now.Cheers
MTM
Leave it on her doorstep, ninja style then at least you aren't delayed by conversation.You need some time to yourself to do whatever it is that helps you feel most you (I'm assuming that's writing!) Make sure and get some time in the next couple of days, would McMini leave you alone for the duration of a DVD? Who cares if the sun is out, your sanity is more important than him have a couple of hours outsida
Big hugs ((((MT)))). Speaking from experience, it's important to have even a short half hour of me/relaxation time if you can shoehorn it in somehow, even if it's just a bathtime soak. Writing would of course be better but sometimes we can't put ourselves in the right mindset when dealing with the kind of situation you've got on your plate, so try not to beat yourself up if you can't manage writing at present.
Big (((((((((((HUG)))))))))))) for you Mary, always !((((((((((HUG)))))))))) for you too GL. Hope thing keep on in a positive way.
It's such a difficult time and one that none of us have had any experience of until it happens. I remember thinking that I wish their suffering would end, both physically and because neither of my parents would want to carry on in the way they both ended up, and then feeling so guilty for feeling like that. One thing is for sure though, you do need to set aside at least an hour for yourself Mary, it is so important, very hard to do when you have a little one to look after I know. Half term is coming up so you will enjoy that in the things you do and not being tied to school run times, I hope it will recharge your batteries a little.
Hope you both get something from the support and love that we all send to you on here.
I have decided to give the rose to Mum in law when we get to Scotland and get another one for my mate nearer the time.I've been managing some me time. Metal detecting club and I've been making sure I socialise. Today, at lunch time, I finished one set of figures and didn't have time to start another one before school pick up. Got 20 minutes of writing in. It was magic! I have a lot that needs editing and you don't really need to think as hard about that in some ways, so it was great to do it. So yeh, feeling a little better. It's the kind of thing that, without a kid, husband etc I'd just pull an all nighter until it was done. If that meant cancelling everything and sitting in front of the screen for 16 hours straight, every day for a week, I'd do it and knock it, and the stress, on the head. I am very near the end now though. Just need to work out what yearly and quarterly charitable donations go out each month - even though we're likely to cancel or reduce them - and we're set.
Thanks everyone, you are all magic and I really appreciate your listening to my rant!
Cheers
MTM
Ooh that sounds good - did you find any interesting metals?Glad to hear the figures are nearly done. That will be a huge weight off you when they are.
I took a thing along that I found on a piece of field a friend has just bought to add to her garden which turned out to be a belt stud, and it came 3rd in it's class on the finds table! ;-) Also discovered the thing I thought might be something, or part of a tractor, was something. ;-)Cheers
MTM
Yay on the belt stud! Errmm...yayish... on the something.
Book clasp. ;-) Very appropriate find for an author.
Ah - indeed it is :)
M.T. wrote: "I have decided to give the rose to Mum in law when we get to Scotland and get another one for my mate nearer the time.I've been managing some me time. Metal detecting club and I've been making su..."
Just a wee thought - if you have just a few minutes, watch Lisa's Pond video - I found it remarkably de-stressing. (Thanks for that Lisa, by the way.)
Had a tough day yesterday. (view spoiler) I know I should be pleased they've got the chance of a positive outcome but I'm just feeling really emotional about it this morning. Spending the night dreaming about it hasn't helped either :(
Big hugs Claire - thats does sound uosetting.
I don't know how you do it, Claire.I'm so pleased you're getting away for a while.
✿Claire✿ wrote: "Had a tough day yesterday. [spoilers removed] I know I should be pleased they've got the chance of a positive outcome but I'm just feeling really emotional about it this morning. Spending the night..."I'm sure those people were much happier because you were there. Good job.
Well done, as always Claire ! You are an amazing young lady, this is just another sign of how well you do your job and all the other things you do too. Have a ((HUG )) my darling. A bit of time at home with your Mum sounds just what you need right now. X x x.
Thank you. I'm feeling a little less emotional, stopped bursting into tears at the slightest thing! Back off to work in a few minutes, has to be better than yesterday!
Hugs Claire. Work on developing a graveyard sense of humour, if it helps to get you through the tough ones. Feeling a lot better myself after venting on here so I hope the hugs help.Cheers
MTM
Thank you x I'm at work but not on the road today. Decided with my manager a day on station would be better for me.
✿Claire✿ wrote: "Thank you x I'm at work but not on the road today. Decided with my manager a day on station would be better for me."Very wise, Claire. Enjoy the respite.
✿Claire✿ wrote: "Thank you x I'm at work but not on the road today. Decided with my manager a day on station would be better for me."Glad you have a good manager, and glad you feel better today, I don't think I could do your job
That's great Claire, I think you've had your share of trauma for this week.
Feeling a lot better now. Back on the road tomorrow and then a week off :) can't wait.
You deserve it - have a good one.
✿Claire✿ wrote: "Feeling a lot better now. Back on the road tomorrow and then a week off :) can't wait."Enjoy your week off, you deserve it
Yes hope you have a relaxing week to unwind Claire.
I was told I'm being made redundant this week. Not actually this week, I still have a job until April 17, guaranteed, but I can't say it's left me full of joy for the rest of this week :(
Oh no! Thats not good news. Lets hope you can get something else quickly.
It's an odd one. We're all guaranteed until April 17 when one of us will be let go. It's too early to say who. The rest of us will be okay then until October 2017, when another will go and the final 3 left will have to apply for the one job left, which will be in April 2018.Just a bit low right now :( I'm not angry, just low :(
Its kind of a very long drawn out hunger games! Thats just cruel.
I suppose they are maybe hoping people will leave and save them the hassle of picking people to pay off. Sucks.
Bummer. I guess it's good to have some notice but then it hangs over you for, literally, years. Sympathies.Cheers
MTM
Yeah, in a way we have notice, which is good, it prepares us rather than being told 'You have a month left' but knowing in advance also lets it fester and morale drops. I know mine and one other persons has.The issue with payroll is is that it's moving to a new payroll system. A system we have to learn, even though we won't be using it so we can liaise with the bureau during the changeover.
Plus its best they keep us with incentives like retention bonuses otherwise temps will need to learn the old system while it's being used as well as trying to learn the new system, which would be insane.
My boss tried dragging them into the 21st century by trying to get a better system that actually worked well, and it's ended up with them deciding it's cheaper to get rid of the lot of us. It's not her fault, she was trying to make it more efficient and to make it run smoother, but unfortunately it's backfired.
It sounds as if they are hoping that someone may leave voluntarily and then they won't have to pay that person redundancy. Because you are changing the technology they are probably going to try to keep the most fitting people for the new system. Husband's office did that once and the people concerned got very upset. Best of luck, keep your chin up.
Thank you :) I'm allowing myself a couple of days to mope about before I get over it and look forward to a new challenge
Both my brother and I were made redundant in 2012. I am still not working, due partly to bad health, and partly to a lot of other complicated reasons. My brother ended up working for a similar company, doing similar work, with the same team, who transferred more or less in one lot to the new place. He also managed to negotiate a part time deal so he work a couple of weeks on, and a couple of weeks off - depending on what projects come up. The difference is made up by a partial pension. So it worked brilliantly for him. Sometimes something that seems bad can end up working out really well.
So sorry to hear that Matthew, what an awful thing to have hanging over you for so long, it is cruel ! GL is right though, things that seem bad at first can often turn out for the better in the long run, I hope that will be the case for you.
Matthew wrote: "It's an odd one. We're all guaranteed until April 17 when one of us will be let go. It's too early to say who. The rest of us will be okay then until October 2017, when another will go and the fina..."This is a very dangerous game they play. For themselves. Unless every person there is a star, what happens is that the good people, the ones who can find another job easily, will do so - leaving the people who can't go and the people who should have been let go.
Matthew wrote: "Thank you :) I'm allowing myself a couple of days to mope about before I get over it and look forward to a new challenge"It's also your chance to get out of somewhere where they treat people like this. Best of luck either way you choose.
Sorry to hear that, hopefully it will work in your favour
Sorry to hear that Matthew, it's a horrible process to be in. I thought ours dragged on, taking 2 months. Nearly 2 years is mad!
Matthew wrote: "Thank you :) I'm allowing myself a couple of days to mope about before I get over it and look forward to a new challenge"Sorry to hear it.
Never having been employed I've never had to face redundancy, but when we were 'enjoying' the 'peace dividend' a lot of my mates did.
Looking back on it now, for some it was a good thing. It broke them out of a rut, and they've moved on and claim it was one of the best things that ever happened to them.
I think the important thing is to stop and think, decide what you want to do with your life, and then make plans in that direction.
Note it's a lot easier to pontificate about this from a distance than it is to do it so I hope everything goes well for you in it all
Not sure what wisdom I can pass on other that 'this too will pass'.