SOLVED. gay character named Pan, some girl, and her date who is a football player [s]

[Jesse]

So there is a character name Pan, he is gay and his name stands for Pansy (kind of a way of saying "I don't care what they call me"). A girl hits on him, finds he is gay, and they become best friends. Later she starts dating a football player, and has to juggle between being with her best friend and her boyfriend.

[Diana]

Magic and Misery by Peter Marino.

[Lobstergirl, au gratin]

Jesse, was that your book?

[Lobstergirl, au gratin]

I agree that is the right book. Moving to Solved.