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Jul 31, 2013 04:02PM
Does anyone self harm or thought about it?
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A have in the past and am trying not to now. Please don't cut though! You are better than it and don't deserve to be going through this.
It is hard not to at times! Like right now, I wish I was at home with a knife, cutting.
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "It is hard not to at times! Like right now, I wish I was at home with a knife, cutting."
Completely understand, girlie. I used to cut all the time - I have about 200 scars, I used to struggle with anorexia/bulimia (switched), and I've attempted suicide 7 times. But let me tell you guys: I know what it's like, and it's never worth it. Self-hatred, self-destruction, all that is just the devil screwing with you and trying to get you to take yourself down so he doesn't have as much work to do.
I know what it's like, trust me. I would have so much pain and anger and hatred inside me and I just didn't know what to do with it all. Physical pain I could deal with. But ultimately it's only a temporary "fix" - it doesn't get rid of the pain, and it doesn't change the circumstances of your life that are fuelling your anger, self-hatred, pain, etc.
This is going to sound like the most pathetic thing you've ever heard - I know because people used to tell this to me ALL the time - but self-harming is really your choice. Now before you freak out, I know what you're thinking: but it's not! It never feels like a choice! I can't stop, even if I wanted to! But I guarantee you that you CAN stop - just not with your own strength. I tried so many times to stop, and it always used to piss me off cause I'd try to get better and then I'd relapse. But when I trusted in God, and gave EVERYTHING to Him, not withholding anything, I was able to stop. And I thought I'd live with "urges" forever, but let me tell you: apart from the random really awful day, I never have any desire to go back to that lifestyle of pain and anger and self-destruction.
Now here's my advice for you: firstly, tell someone you can meet in person who you really trust. I'd personally recommend someone outside of family, cause I know my parents weren't exactly helpful (although they tried, they really did) because they were too busy freaking out - but pray about who it should be first. :) Advice point two: the little choices are the things that matter. For example: for me, music impacts me like you wouldn't believe. I can be having the best day, and then hear a song like "Demons" by Imagine Dragons, and bam, mood drops, negativity starts, it's craziness. So whenever I felt down, I would listen to music like that, things that were sad, about lonliness - music that expressed how I was feeling - but it would fuel my negative emotions. So in those moments when you're looking for a comfort blanket, turn to something uplifting. As cheesy as it sounds, turn to God, legit. One of the best things you can do for yourself.
If you need anything else just let me know, girl! Here for you no matter what! You can do this! But remember, it's a choice. You gotta commit to stopping, and do it with God :) Message me if you ever need anything! And remember who you are in Christ: precious, beautiful, totally loved and wanted, a new creation, and FREE!!! <3
Completely understand, girlie. I used to cut all the time - I have about 200 scars, I used to struggle with anorexia/bulimia (switched), and I've attempted suicide 7 times. But let me tell you guys: I know what it's like, and it's never worth it. Self-hatred, self-destruction, all that is just the devil screwing with you and trying to get you to take yourself down so he doesn't have as much work to do.
I know what it's like, trust me. I would have so much pain and anger and hatred inside me and I just didn't know what to do with it all. Physical pain I could deal with. But ultimately it's only a temporary "fix" - it doesn't get rid of the pain, and it doesn't change the circumstances of your life that are fuelling your anger, self-hatred, pain, etc.
This is going to sound like the most pathetic thing you've ever heard - I know because people used to tell this to me ALL the time - but self-harming is really your choice. Now before you freak out, I know what you're thinking: but it's not! It never feels like a choice! I can't stop, even if I wanted to! But I guarantee you that you CAN stop - just not with your own strength. I tried so many times to stop, and it always used to piss me off cause I'd try to get better and then I'd relapse. But when I trusted in God, and gave EVERYTHING to Him, not withholding anything, I was able to stop. And I thought I'd live with "urges" forever, but let me tell you: apart from the random really awful day, I never have any desire to go back to that lifestyle of pain and anger and self-destruction.
Now here's my advice for you: firstly, tell someone you can meet in person who you really trust. I'd personally recommend someone outside of family, cause I know my parents weren't exactly helpful (although they tried, they really did) because they were too busy freaking out - but pray about who it should be first. :) Advice point two: the little choices are the things that matter. For example: for me, music impacts me like you wouldn't believe. I can be having the best day, and then hear a song like "Demons" by Imagine Dragons, and bam, mood drops, negativity starts, it's craziness. So whenever I felt down, I would listen to music like that, things that were sad, about lonliness - music that expressed how I was feeling - but it would fuel my negative emotions. So in those moments when you're looking for a comfort blanket, turn to something uplifting. As cheesy as it sounds, turn to God, legit. One of the best things you can do for yourself.
If you need anything else just let me know, girl! Here for you no matter what! You can do this! But remember, it's a choice. You gotta commit to stopping, and do it with God :) Message me if you ever need anything! And remember who you are in Christ: precious, beautiful, totally loved and wanted, a new creation, and FREE!!! <3
Im proud to say I've never cut myself :)
God has a plan for your life and i'm certain that he would not want you to do that to the beautiful body that he made just for you. it may be hard but i, a person you don't even know, believe that if you pray and ask God to help you to stop, He will help you to grow out of it. its called the Power Of God! Miracles will happen
Don't Loose Hope In The Lord!!!
Don't Loose Hope In The Lord!!!
I've thought cutting myself before, but something always stopped me for which I am very grateful. I have though stabbed myself with a needle (once) and bit my arm a few times.... :/
mountainmist wrote: "I've thought cutting myself before, but something always stopped me for which I am very grateful. I have though stabbed myself with a needle (once) and bit my arm a few times.... :/"
Glad you never have! It's better to bite you arm occasionally than cut, trust me :)
Glad you never have! It's better to bite you arm occasionally than cut, trust me :)
Yeah, I guess I just never had the guts(?) to cut myself. I'm glad I haven't and pray that I never will. :)
mountainmist wrote: "Yeah, I guess I just never had the guts(?) to cut myself. I'm glad I haven't and pray that I never will. :)"
Lol, praise God for not having the "guts" - or you could say that you just had the wisdom not to ;) If you ever feel like it, message me and I'll try to help you out with anything you need :)
Lol, praise God for not having the "guts" - or you could say that you just had the wisdom not to ;) If you ever feel like it, message me and I'll try to help you out with anything you need :)
Thanks! :)
i totally agree with you i go to public school which is tough and for the first year of middle school i drifted form God. but thank God, last year i was able to wake up and see that i was off track. i tried to come back and now i'm like a new person and i'm loving it...never for one instant think that no one would care...because once your gone that's when everyone finally realizes what good you did. Never Give Up!
I drifted TO God in Middle school. I was 12.
well thats good too!! im happy to say that i was able to grow up with christian parents so i have never cut myself!
thank The Lord!
thank The Lord!
Paigetwo *Caitlyn* wrote: "I drifted TO God in Middle school. I was 12."
Really?? That's awesome! I had the opposite experience, same with high school, but I find that it was more about what I put as my priorities (like did I value friends more than God, etc.) less than school itself pulling me away from Him.
How's everyone doing today? How you feeling, Katelyn?
Really?? That's awesome! I had the opposite experience, same with high school, but I find that it was more about what I put as my priorities (like did I value friends more than God, etc.) less than school itself pulling me away from Him.
How's everyone doing today? How you feeling, Katelyn?
Paigetwo *Caitlyn* wrote: "Good over here :)"
That's awesome :)
That's awesome :)
Anna wrote: "im doing great!! u?"
Doing amazingly well, thanks for asking Anna :)
Doing amazingly well, thanks for asking Anna :)
thanks The Lord for a great day!!
Anna wrote: "thanks The Lord for a great day!!"
Haha, amen!
Haha, amen!
@ Lia
I'm doing ok. I had band practice all day and it was a blast!
I'm doing ok. I had band practice all day and it was a blast!
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "@ Lia
I'm doing ok. I had band practice all day and it was a blast!"
Lol, I always hated band practice, but I'm glad you loved it! :P
I'm doing ok. I had band practice all day and it was a blast!"
Lol, I always hated band practice, but I'm glad you loved it! :P
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "What did you play?"
I used to play the flute - my mom bought me one and everything (although you know for a fact we weren't that dedicated cause we bought it from Costco xD) - but I haven't played it in like, 2 1/2 years... woops :P What about you?
I used to play the flute - my mom bought me one and everything (although you know for a fact we weren't that dedicated cause we bought it from Costco xD) - but I haven't played it in like, 2 1/2 years... woops :P What about you?
I play Flute too during Concert Band and it is my native instrument. For Marching Band, I switch to Alto Sax to help fill out the voices needed.
Then I taught myself Clarinet using my friends.
Then I taught myself Clarinet using my friends.
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "I play Flute too during Concert Band and it is my native instrument. For Marching Band, I switch to Alto Sax to help fill out the voices needed.
Then I taught myself Clarinet using my friends."
Wooow! Lol, I could never do that! I know flute and piano, that's it. But that's great! Good for you! :)
Then I taught myself Clarinet using my friends."
Wooow! Lol, I could never do that! I know flute and piano, that's it. But that's great! Good for you! :)
I want to learn piano so bad! I just need a teacher who can help me advance more!
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "I want to learn piano so bad! I just need a teacher who can help me advance more!"
Lol, I'd volunteer, but I've kind of forgotten everything. :P Hmm, are there any piano schools near where you live?
Lol, I'd volunteer, but I've kind of forgotten everything. :P Hmm, are there any piano schools near where you live?
I don't think so. I live in like the middle of nowwhere! I am surrounded by fields! My band director can play piano, but she stop teaching and that was one of the best decision of her life she claims.
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "I don't think so. I live in like the middle of nowwhere! I am surrounded by fields! My band director can play piano, but she stop teaching and that was one of the best decision of her life she claims."
Lol, I sympathize with living in the middle of nowhere - my little town has a population of 6,000 -.- *facepalm* and I just moved like, a year and a half ago from a city of 3 million. Culture shock! And aww, that's not good for you... is there any way you could convince her otherwise? Make an exception for your lovely self? ;)
Lol, I sympathize with living in the middle of nowhere - my little town has a population of 6,000 -.- *facepalm* and I just moved like, a year and a half ago from a city of 3 million. Culture shock! And aww, that's not good for you... is there any way you could convince her otherwise? Make an exception for your lovely self? ;)
Lauren wrote: "A have in the past and am trying not to now.
Please don't cut though! You are better than it and don't deserve to be going through this."
How's stopping going for you Lauren? doing okay? :)
Please don't cut though! You are better than it and don't deserve to be going through this."
How's stopping going for you Lauren? doing okay? :)
@Lia
The town my school is in has about 1,150 people!!
The town my school is in has about 1,150 people!!
Katelyn♬✞ wrote: "@Lia
The town my school is in has about 1,150 people!!"
Yikes! You win Katelyn! ;)
The town my school is in has about 1,150 people!!"
Yikes! You win Katelyn! ;)
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I haven't personally experienced it but i have some friends that have depression and other things like it. I'm totally with Lia. As Christians we should all know that God cries for you and when you hurt yourself. He cares. He loves. Love may seem like such an unrealistic word but LIFE IS WORTH IT. HE WILL HELP YOU.
A support group would really help. Family friends. They won't judge you, a christian community will help get you through this. Anger and bitterness and self destruction is a trap that only God can help you escape. It's where Satan wants you to be. And what we are all fighting. We all love you Katelyn!! Praying!
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PLAY PIANO!!!!! good teachers can be amazing! i love mine
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The town my school is in has about 1,150 people!!"
same here XD
Lia's journey is beyond amazing :') her whole life is a miracle of God :D
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it sounds amazing
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With God all things are possible. :)
i just have to say that Lia your post was amazing! would you mind if I shared it with a couple people? if you want i'll change your name
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Jenny wrote: "i just have to say that Lia your post was amazing! would you mind if I shared it with a couple people? if you want i'll change your name"
what one are you copying?
what one are you copying?
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