Is chivalry dead? Should it be?

[Jake]

What do you guys think?

[Ella]

I think chivalry isnt so widespread as it used to be, when men were expected to hold doors for women. I dont think it should be dead though. I also dont think it should be limited only to men. We should do things to simply be nice, not because of their gender.

[Ella]

I kind of avoided the question. Chivalry isnt dead, but it's dying.

[Evan]

Chivalry as in the code ancient Knights followed became part of the twentieth century society but now it is being pushed aside and I miss it, I don't care if I'm being "sexist" for letting women through a door before me I'm doing it because its polite, even when there are men as well, I try to be the last through the door. We now live in a different century and new codes are being adopted but the virtues people should follow of being regal, virtuous, shrewd and chivalric are all dying out and new ones will follow, some will be better than the codes we use now others won't be.

[Sierra]

Lia wrote: "The only gentlemen around are six feet under the ground. Politeness has become so rare that people often mistake it for flirtation. I don't think it's matter of chivalry as in, the knight's code, I..."

I agree completely.

[Leah, I'm HI-larious! (Head Mod)]

It's not dead yet, at least not where I live; however, it's dying. I don't think it should be. There's nothing "sexist" about a man opening a door for a woman or offering her his seat, etc.

[Ella]

@Lia
I agree. We need to learn how to be more polite, not be more chivalrous.

[Billy]

Its not dead, some people are still very polite. However instead of "men need to hold doors open for women!!!", everyone should try to give a helping hand to others.

[Jake]

I agree. Politeness is becoming so sadly absent. Some elderly people are surprised when I hold doors open for them or offer help of something similar.

[T.J.]

When chivalry, honesty, trust, faith, love,truth....when that is all lost, then what defines humanity? No, it is not dead and I hope it never will be.

[Sierra]

Elevetha wrote: "One time, at the library, there was this grandfather and his two young grandsons. I came through carrying my library bag and the grandfather told one of the boys to hold the door open for me. He di..."

That's so sweet! At least somebody is raising their child right.

[Leah, I'm HI-larious! (Head Mod)]

Elevetha wrote: "One time, at the library, there was this grandfather and his two young grandsons. I came through carrying my library bag and the grandfather told one of the boys to hold the door open for me. He di..."

Aww! That's sweet!

[Leah, I'm HI-larious! (Head Mod)]

Elevetha wrote: "Hmm. I think that things like holding doors open or helping someone carry something or things like that are in no way gender specific. It's just common courtesy, I don't care who you are. If we're ..."

I totally agree

[Dion, Keep calm and debate your topic]

I'm kind of up in arms about this - I mean women want equal rights and everything, the right to vote etcetera etcetera, and I think that's right, but then they (we?) also say: don't hit a girl, and hold the door for girls, and I think that's sexist.

I think that it's just polite, and is good manners and blah blah to do anyway, and I don't think there needs to be a 'code of chivalry' for someone to hold a door open for someone and stuff like that. I hold doors open for plenty of guys, and girls, and I don't think of it as Chivalry or anything special, just being polite.

So is it dead? I don't know. Is it dying? Not really sure. Is it right? I don't know. Is it wrong? No, I don't think so.

I don't really know what I think...

[Ella]

Instead of saying, "dont hit a girl" we should say "dont hit anyone!" That's what I dont get. A girl hits a guy and it's nothing. A guy hits a girl and-god forbid he hits a girl- it's an outrage.

[Leah, I'm HI-larious! (Head Mod)]

I don't think that chivalry means "EXPECT a man to give up his seat or hold the door open because women can't do it. Rather, I think it means "It is polite to show respect in this way."

[Ella]

@H99
Exactly. When I hold a door for someone, I am not a man. I am not trying to pose as a man. I identify as a woman. Honestly.