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Monika wrote: "Wren wrote: "I'd like to complain that I am so pale that when my cousin was doing my make up she had to use gray powder to contour my face haha"I once dyed my hair black. Luckily it was easily wa..."
Thats hilarious XD my hair is currently black, sometimes I look like a vampire
Wren wrote: "Haha I'm trying to get used to it but it always gets on my nerves"Yeah, me too. I keep trying to jump off this crazy planet but gravity won't let me. :/
Wren wrote: "Thats hilarious XD my hair is currently black, sometimes I look like a vampire"One Halloween a LGBTQ organization I was involved with sponsored a Halloween party. I wore bluejeans, a black ruffly shirt and a long black wool coat. When the "costume contest" was called I found myself being put into a line up with the other dozen or so individuals who had made it into the final round. This made me really curious because I wasn't wearing a costume. At least I thought I wasn't. I ended up being 2nd place winner for my "Vampire" costume. O.o
I was bewildered through the whole thing and my boyfriend at the time (the EX who shall not be named because he ripped out my heart, threw it on the ground and stomped on it with his little Satan hooves) thought it was hysterical. I made him pay for everyone of those giggles that night though. ;)
I wish to whine, whimper, moan and complain that it is an evil, wicked, mean, bad and nasty world which allows the guy who has handled my car repairs for the last three years to double charge me for labor on two big jobs on Friday, and then call me today to apologize for making the mistake and give me a $438 credit on my credit card.Boo-hoo.
>snicker<
>GRIN<
As the March Hare and Mad Hatter so aptly said, A very merry unbirthday to me, to me!
Eric wrote: "I wish to whine, whimper, moan and complain that it is an evil, wicked, mean, bad and nasty world which allows the guy who has handled my car repairs for the last three years to double charge me fo..."a merry unbirthday indeed
Honest people are cool. What time is the party?
Merry Unbirthday, Eric. Hope it's full of wonderful things.
I want to complain that a water pipe bursted next to my house.It's going to be a lovely day... :s
Monika wrote: "I want to complain that a water pipe bursted next to my house.It's going to be a lovely day... :s"
Fun!
I just wanna complain that I want kids of my own (and so does my bf) but I also wanna go on hormones but going on hormones has chance of damaging your reproductive system soooo I have decided to wait until after I have kids to go on them but that'll be so long away, ugh.
Ummm, I'm a bit confused - why do you want to go on hormones? (if you don't mind me asking)
Well, so much for Thanksgiving. From now on November 27th will be my Grand-Nephew's birthday. Ezra gave him mom a good 30 hours of labor. That's going to be a Thanksgiving story that's going to haunt him for a few years.
Monika wrote: "Ummm, I'm a bit confused - why do you want to go on hormones? (if you don't mind me asking)"I identify as a genderqueer ftm. So basically im transgender
Rick wrote: "Well, so much for Thanksgiving. From now on November 27th will be my Grand-Nephew's birthday. Ezra gave him mom a good 30 hours of labor. That's going to be a Thanksgiving story that's going to hau..."Awwww :) congrats on your grand-nephew!
Wren wrote: "Awwww :) congrats on your grand-nephew!" Thanks. ;) But I really didn't do anything. ;) Seriously. ;D
I have to give my niece all the congratulations. 30 hours! Ugh! I have no idea how women can tolerate something like that. Men are such whimps. They're so insecure they think big bulging muscles makes them strong. Ha! Giving birth! That's strength!
Wren wrote: "I identify as a genderqueer ftm. So basically im transgender"You're Be(you)tiful! :)
Rick wrote: "Wren wrote: "I identify as a genderqueer ftm. So basically im transgender"You're Be(you)tiful! :)"
Why thank you ^u^
Youre Fantabulous a mix of fantastic and fabulous. (Made that up myself :p )
Rick wrote: "Wren wrote: "Awwww :) congrats on your grand-nephew!" Thanks. ;) But I really didn't do anything. ;) Seriously. ;D
I have to give my niece all the congratulations. 30 hours! Ugh! I have no idea h..."
Speaking of the female form, I'd like to complain that I watched a movie and there is a scene where a guy is giving a "pep talk" to a group of military men before they battle, and he says something along the lines of, if they dont succeed they are "maggots". But oh no, not just maggots....he goes on to specify that they are "FEMALE maggots", with an emphasis on the female.
This pisses me off. All bodies are equal and awesome. No sex or gender is inferior. However, there seems to be a lot of this equating the female form to inferiority, and I am disgusted with this. Because no matter my gender identity, they are referring to MY body (and my occasional girl days) , and I'm so sick of my body being used as an insult.
I'm shocked this got approved for the film. Overtly misogynistic, imo.
I just...I mean, the other day my friend, who is a cis female, called her boyfriend "a woman" as an insult. I was shocked.
It confuses me a lot, tbh. And upsets me.
When I was in junior high (middle school) the gym (physical education) coaches routinely yelled at the boys to try to get us motivated. These coaches routinely shouted things like: You throw like a girl! You run like you've got a (view spoiler) up your (view spoiler)! You tackle like a (view spoiler) you (view spoiler)! You wrestle like a (view spoiler)! This misogyny is so engrained in the mythology of American masculinity that most people don't even see it (like the institutionalized racism supported by Donald Trump & his ilk). All it did was give me no respect for authority.
Rick wrote: "When I was in junior high (middle school) the gym (physical education) coaches routinely yelled at the boys to try to get us motivated. These coaches routinely shouted things like: You throw like a..."wow thats terrible.....disgusting.
Im sorry you had to deal with that. I feel theres this sort of 'toxic masculinity", and this idea that femininity is inferior? And I hate how feminine is always considered female and masculine male, honestly people of any sex or gender can be any mix of masc or fem and it shouldn't even matter.
I agree we are all a mix, but that's not what patriarchal American teaches it's boys. It is a chronic psychological sickness that gets passed on from generation to generation. Practicing traditionalism, fundamentalism & conservativim only makes it worse.
Rick wrote: "I agree we are all a mix, but that's not what patriarchal American teaches it's boys. It is a chronic psychological sickness that gets passed on from generation to generation. Practicing traditiona..."I know thats the sad reality :(
I guess thats why I'm trying to open peoples minds, one by one. I know I'm only one person but I know many who do the same as me, and I'm hoping that things will change for the better. This is so unhealthy, its unfair, and I'm trying my best to combat it.
Rick wrote: "Wren wrote: "Awwww :) congrats on your grand-nephew!" Thanks. ;) But I really didn't do anything. ;) Seriously. ;D
I have to give my niece all the congratulations. 30 hours! Ugh! I have no idea h..."
And not all women are willing to go through that either, so a great big nod to the new mom. Congratulations on being a grand-uncle. It has it's own special reward.
Wren wrote: "I guess thats why I'm trying to open peoples minds, one by one. I know I'm only one person but I know many who do the same as me, and I'm hoping that things will change for the better. This is so unhealthy, its unfair, and I'm trying my best to combat it."One person can change th world, but just remember that you're not responsible for changing the world. ;)
I wish you all the love, support & encouragement that I can. :)
Lori S. wrote: "... Congratulations on being a grand-uncle. It has it's own special reward."I've already got him a wee Doctor Who themed onesie (my name is Stormageddon...) and ordered a TARDIS blue afghan. ;)
Rick wrote: "I've already got him a wee Doctor Who themed onesie (my name is Stormageddon...) and ordered a TARDIS blue afghan. ;) ..."That's Berrittish police box blue, if you don't mind!
Roger wrote: "That's Berrittish police box blue, if you don't mind!"Nope. Sorry, but Doctor Who has now been embraced & assimilated into American Popular Culture. There's nothing you can do about. The rest of the world may call it football, but ask a 'Merican and he'll tell you that that there game's real name is Soccer. And only in 'Merica can you not measure things with the metric system 'cuz it's just too darn confounin'. Nope, once it's been 'Mericanized there's no way you're gettin' it back. TARDIS Blue and that's that. We dern 'Mericans can be a stubborn folk.
;-)
You mean resistance is fewtle??I'm sure seven of nine people would disagree with you…
Roger wrote: "You mean resistance is fewtle?? I'm sure seven of nine people would disagree with you…"Yayup, but them there 7-of-9 fellers your speakin' of surely ain't 'Mericans. I mean they're probably a bunch of voyagers on some foolish quest off trekkin' among the stars.
Mean, only in 'Merica can ya live among good god fearin' Christians who give thanks fer what our cosmic Jewish zombie lord'n'savior gave unto his chosen few on one day and turn around and get into public brawls the next day in a feeding frenzy of rampant conspicuous consumption. Yep, if we yell about Christian values the loudest we'll prove that we're the sacred nation of the holier-than-thou!
Pardon my rant... The new downstairs neighbors have seen fit to decorate the front yard with dozens of lighted candy canes and a mounted a HUGE electric cross on the front of the house. Which is of course where my bedroom is. So I couldn't get to sleep until after 1 last night and then they are having guests over this morning who started arriving at 7:30 AM.
The front yard is so bright that if I open my curtains I can read by the light coming in. I mean how insecure do you have to be in your "faith" if you have to broadcast it to the whole neighborhood every night?
Rick wrote: "Lori S. wrote: "... Congratulations on being a grand-uncle. It has it's own special reward."I've already got him a wee Doctor Who themed onesie (my name is Stormageddon...) and ordered a TARDIS b..."
Uncle privileges rule!
Lori S. wrote: "Uncle privileges rule!" I decided that I'm "Gruncle Rick" now. ;)
Rick wrote: "Lori S. wrote: "Uncle privileges rule!" I decided that I'm "Gruncle Rick" now. ;)"
Coolness.
I really like that show.
Rick wrote: "Pardon my rant... The new downstairs neighbors have seen fit to decorate the front yard with dozens of lighted candy canes and a mounted a HUGE electric cross on the front of the house. Which is of course where my bedroom is. So I couldn't get to sleep until after 1 last night and then they are having guests over this morning who started arriving at 7:30 AM. The front yard is so bright that if I open my curtains I can read by the light coming in. I mean how insecure do you have to be in your "faith" if you have to broadcast it to the whole neighborhood every night? "
Rant away, rant away! It's my "considered" opinion that such people, who as you say "broadcast it (their "faith") to the whole neighborhood every night", are like bullies because it's more about lording it over other people and not really about their beliefs at all.
Lori S. wrote: "... I really like that show."I had to look that up. O.o
And here I though I'd come up with that all on my little lonesome. :(
Wren wrote: "Monika wrote: "Ummm, I'm a bit confused - why do you want to go on hormones? (if you don't mind me asking)" I identify as a genderqueer ftm. So basically im transgender"
Ok, so I had to google the meaning of those terms because I never remember what they stand for, but at least now I think I'm less confused about your complaint ;)
Pardon my ignorance on purpose, as I call it, but I sometimes think that all those terms instead of building bridges and understanding, build more walls between people. So don't get mad if I won't remember it in a while, please?
I personally refuse to put a label on me, I find it annoying and more confusing than explaining.
Rick wrote: "Wren wrote: "Awwww :) congrats on your grand-nephew!"
Thanks. ;) But I really didn't do anything. ;) Seriously. ;D
I have to give my niece all the congratulations. 30 hours! Ugh! I have no idea h..."
Congratulations uncle Rick, but gosh 30 hours, what a nightmare. But it's not like women tolerate it, I think that with the first kid they simply don't know what to expect and then they delude themselves that it may not be that bad the second time... When my aunt was in labor, for like half of this time, apparently she manged to swear off sex and any more children, threatened her husband to cut off some important parts if he ever mentioned another kid and cursed fiercely.
Rick wrote: "When I was in junior high (middle school) the gym (physical education) coaches routinely yelled at the boys to try to get us motivated. These coaches routinely shouted things like: You throw like a..."Huh, I know that kind of behavior only from American films and I thought it was mostly exaggerated. During my PE lessons it was mostly "don't slack" because we were a bunch of lazy slackers ;) and there was never even one 'homo slur' because it's Poland where if you don't mention some things then they do not exist.
Monika wrote: "Ok, so I had to google the meaning of those terms because I never remember what they stand for, but at least now I think I'm less confused about your complaint ;) Pardon my ignorance on purpose, as I call it, but I sometimes think that all those terms instead of building bridges and understanding, build more walls between people. So don't get mad if I won't remember it in a while, please?
I personally refuse to put a label on me, I find it annoying and more confusing than explaining".
Its ok, you don't have to get it 100%, it just has to be respected. Heck, even I don't get or remember many other trans identities, and I'm in the community! So don't worry about it.
I can see how some can view these terms that way, but I and many other trans people see it as something else, as a way to feel more comfortable in our own skin, to connect with others who have similar experiences, and that these terms aren't made because people want new identities but rather because they want an established way to express the person who they already are. For example, its much easier to say "genderqueer ftm" than "most of my days i get dysphoria and wish I had a male body but there are occasional days where I feel female or neutral and I also do not conform to gender norms". You see what I'm saying? Its more efficient and provides a sense of belonging and validity, too.
Like I said, its ok if you don't remember :) my bf still messes up my name and pronouns sometimes. Its the attempt that counts the most
Wren wrote: "Monika wrote: "Ummm, I'm a bit confused - why do you want to go on hormones? (if you don't mind me asking)"I identify as a genderqueer ftm. So basically im transgender"
I've a friend who is transgender mtf taking hormones. It's amazing how they can even effect the shape of the body. My friend is very happy as female and has much love and support. I hope you too will enjoy happiness and loving support when the time comes,
Wren wrote: " For example, its much easier to say "genderqueer ftm" than "most of my days i get dysphoria and wish I had a male body but there are occasional days where I feel female or neutral and I also do not conform to gender norms". You see what I'm saying? Its more efficient and provides a sense of belonging and validity, too. ..."Oh, I do get that it's easier to use in the community but honestly what you wrote about how you feel explained more to me than couple of pages on wikipedia, so thank you :)
Preston wrote: "I've a friend who is transgender mtf taking hormones. It's amazing how they can even effect the shape of the body..."There is this Alex guy on youtube whose videos are basically about his life and people reactions towards him and you can see how he changed thanks to taking hormones and how he is calmer and looks more optimistic now that he likes his body better.
Monika wrote: "Wren wrote: " For example, its much easier to say "genderqueer ftm" than "most of my days i get dysphoria and wish I had a male body but there are occasional days where I feel female or neutral and..."Yeah I get that! Its different for everyone too. I'm glad I explained it well though
Preston wrote: "Wren wrote: "Monika wrote: "Ummm, I'm a bit confused - why do you want to go on hormones? (if you don't mind me asking)"I identify as a genderqueer ftm. So basically im transgender"
I've a frie..."
Hormones are super amazing....I'm super glad she is happy!
Thank you! Me too. I dont think I will fully transition because I don't think my mental, or even physical health could take a complete change but I definitely want to go on a low dose of hormones someday for a nice and gradual transition. I have lots of support from my family and friends so I know they'll help me out when the time comes.
It means a lot to have people wish me well for this. :)
You're all so nice on here, not minding my blabbering...its good to be able to get things out!On that note, my bf's dad, who knows my identity, sees me holding the tv remote. He says "shouldn't the man be in charge of the remote? "
1) disgustingly sexist and 2) he knows my identity, like I mentioned.
Its getting old. He's sexist and semi-homophobic very often and I'm sick of it
Wren wrote: "You're all so nice on here, not minding my blabbering...its good to be able to get things out!"We're glad you have a place to do so, Wren. I don't know an awful lot about trans* issues, so I'm always happy to listen and learn.
Feel free to ask questions in turn if you like. I mean, how many Aro-Aces do you encounter? :)
"On that note, my bf's dad, who knows my identity, sees me holding the tv remote. He says "shouldn't the man be in charge of the remote?" "
Uh, no. I'd say whoever has the remote in hand is the one charge of the thing.
I hate it when Zombies come sliding through my letterbox, but it seems my Oliver has been getting into undead trouble again in a new magazine rather boldly titled
ZOMBIE!
, just because he painted a few computer games magazine covers back in the 1980s and 90s… tsk!
Oh wow, I give you my heart taken very literally...
Monika wrote: "Oh wow, I give you my heart taken very literally..."Yep, it's a zombie Valentine: I heart you (literally)
Oliver is a man after my own heart... Wait a minute...
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