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BunWat wrote: "I notice that despite discovering that you don't like spicy gelato you still finished the chocolate chili - excellent committment to the task at hand there, Jim. "
Well it was a nasty job but someone had to do it! ;-).
Well it was a nasty job but someone had to do it! ;-).
LOL You sound exactly like my dear husband, Bun. Of course, I am the designated information dumper in our family and he's the neat concise one-brilliant-phrase man. But, in this situation it really has to be a Mom & daughter thing.Thanks for the advice. ;) I will def keep in mind.
If you don't have the discussion with her, someone else will. I'd jump on the opportunity. It doesn't have to be a taboo topic. I recommend you do a bit of research on your own to find children's books that open up on this topic as an introduction as well as other suggestions on what's okay to say and do and what's not okay. Maybe Jackie or Montambo can help out here with a recommendation or two.
i was the dad that went:"wow, what is sex? hmmmmmmmmm. sex. yah, ummm, well it's sorta a deal that mommy's and daddy's do, well...sometimes we do but not all the time and...HEY! let's go get some ice cream!!!"
Kevin "El Liso Grande" wrote: "i was the dad that went:
"wow, what is sex? hmmmmmmmmm. sex. yah, ummm, well it's sorta a deal that mommy's and daddy's do, well...sometimes we do but not all the time and...HEY! let's go get some..."
Well avoidance and distraction is one way to go..............
"wow, what is sex? hmmmmmmmmm. sex. yah, ummm, well it's sorta a deal that mommy's and daddy's do, well...sometimes we do but not all the time and...HEY! let's go get some..."
Well avoidance and distraction is one way to go..............
LOL That was a little bit of the conversation this morning... mostly because she only had 5 minutes to get to class. We've been pretty open but guarded about it before this, and it's my belief that I want her to know that it's not bad - just adult.She's also really quick to make logical jumps, but at the same time pretty innocent for her age. A friend mentioned that second grade is really where they begin to start hearing about it from friends, so I'd better have some semblence of "The Talk" before she gets it from them. Yea... it's time. Books might be good, but I think it will just be mostly answering her questions & hopefully leading her in a certain direction. Her questions are always what throw me... she comes up with just that precise one that I'm just not expecting.
Finished with a two-part final. I'm not even going to say how long it was.I'm so hungry, thirsty, overheated, sore, etc.
And the best part?
I have another one tomorrow.
Fuck my life.
Cosmic Sherrie, here are some book suggestions:It's Not the Stork! A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends
, which is very frank about everything, with cartoon pictures that show the difference between boys and girls, and is designed for younger children.It's So Amazing! A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families
is by the same author, but focuses more on babies and reproduction.And one more good one is What's the Big Secret? Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys
, which is a little less detailed, and more cartoony. Marc Brown (Arthur series) does the illustrations.
whoa whoa whoa Nelly !!! It's NOT the stork?
Matt, why're you overheated and sore? Yes! Like Nools said, hang in there! Just think of the celebrating you'll get to do when it's all behind you and you can relax and enjoy summer. :) Jackie, What's the Big Secret? Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys is the book I was thinking of... I've seen it before and thought it would be handy for that discussion if I should ever have to have it.
I almost could've used it last summer when my nephew was visiting. He noticed that my dog was a boy dog and he didn't have any testicles. There were alot of questions I wasn't ready to answer, but I answered them as honestly as I could for a 7 year old. I think I did okay because he didn't ask anymore questions after I talked to him. I had to call my sister afterwards to tell her about our convo so she wouldn't be surprised by "Robby doesn't have any balls, mommy" or something of the sort.
On a somewhat related subject, I wish my dog could make puppies. He'd be a great papa dog. He loves puppies and cats and children. He's so sociable and loving... and sweet. *sigh*
Sher - most definitely let her direct the conversation and ask the questions so you give honest but short answers. The advice I always read when pondering this in anticipation for Jake was to redirect general questions with a "What do YOU think it is."Heidi, heheh. I can see your nephew going around to everyone now and enquiring how their balls were doing.
I remember asking my mom what a virgin was when I was really young.I mean, they just kept saying 'The Virgin Mary' in Christmas songs, and of course at some point a kid is gonna say 'uh, what is that?'
I was a big hit at school for the next week.
Evidently no one else had thought to ask that question yet. :)
And Heidi, I also wish my dog could have babies, because she is so loving. She has also been around 2 litters of pug puppies, and she LOVED them so much.
But, alas, she is a pound puppy, and therefore fixed.
I completely understand why they have to do it, but I just wish there weren't so many irresponsible people out there not taking care of their dogs(or their dogs' puppies), when good people could be breeding their's in a healthy way.
Thanks Jackie, I will check these out. Tonight we talked about kissing boys & whether that lead to sex. She was worried Jared was going to be really mad at her that she had kissed a boy & not told us. (He never really gets mad at her, but we've had 'boy' problems at school with her and he has had to be the stern Dad with this subject) So, we talked about saying 'no' to boys who want to kiss her and the 'no boyfriends until your a teenager' stuff. Holy cow. So, I think the 'Talk' is progressing little by little. I don't think she's as interested in the actual sex part yet, just the 'omgosh am I having sex and I don't realize it' thing. Interesting times. What do you guys think about it?
Question: Is it a really bad thing to not want to get a dog fixed so we can have puppies at least once? I know all the official Humane Society stances & why... but, dangit, I've always wanted to raise puppies. Yea, yea... irresponsible.. blah, blah. :\ I just think it would be a great experience for all of us.
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I remember those books. That was how I found out about sex.
puppies are the best. my best friend Lucy had 5 about 2 years ago and they were so much fun. i found very good people to give them to (i wanted to keep them all and got teary eyed when each one left) and i still get updates on how they are doing. we got Miss Lucy fixed (that is such a sterile term) on Valentine's Day (yeah, ironic eh?) last year so no more puppies here. a sad day for me
right now, i try to love my profesion for now.when i thinked this is the right one for me 'now'.
and i've got a high score for my 'new' talent.
i hope tht my frofesion can make me better.
Cj_, if I may be so bold as to ask, in what country do you live?
hmm, im sorry, ask for wht?i live in indonesia.
Ah. Okay. No special reason. Just curious. Good luck with your search for the profession that suits you.
hmmm.yeah, do you love your profession Larry?
Sometimes I do. Sometimes I hate it. I'm fortunate to have a good job, though.
I'm a manager of fuel conservation for a transportation company
wow, cool.you are great!!
i hope i can be a great ppl like you.
Cj_ wrote: "thts great for me, coz im nothing."
I think you need a big dose of self esteem. Focus on the positives in your life, and try to avoid the negatives.
I think you need a big dose of self esteem. Focus on the positives in your life, and try to avoid the negatives.
im sorry Jim, but i cant get tht by myself.now, im blank.
Larry wrote: "I'm not so great. But thank you."
Ah hell Larry your great to us.
Ah hell Larry your great to us.
yeah we know tht Larry is sooo great!
I found a lovely, polished rock at my doorstep. Clearly someone left it there for me to find, and it looks somewhat familiar, too! I'm not sure what it means. It's all so very mysterious.
The circumstance around the rock being left at my door is mysterious. It didn't walk there all by itself (duh), and no one I know is claiming to have left it there. I'd brush it off as being Mother Nature being funny with all the recent storms and wind, except it's too pretty and polished to be from outdoors.
Heidi wrote: "I found a lovely, polished rock at my doorstep. Clearly someone left it there for me to find, and it looks somewhat familiar, too! I'm not sure what it means. It's all so very mysterious."
The mystery will probably clear itself up, until then it seems like a good time to start a polished rock collection.
The mystery will probably clear itself up, until then it seems like a good time to start a polished rock collection.
i launched it from here with my ultra powerful slingshot. glad i missed the window
See Heidi mystery solved, now to just talk Kevin into launching polished rubies and sapphires to you.
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/22/348...OH YA SALLY! better put your safety glasses on sister because a ruby can put an eye out!
You better turn that about 1cm to the right Kevin, or that will end up in Sally's neighbors back yard.
I'm more of a turquoise, pearl, and coral fan, myself.... cabachons.
how bout a piece of Indiana limestone slung your way?BTW - the velocity plus the distance multiplied with the micro fine dust particles in the air squared is what polishes the rock on the way. just your basic:
V+DxP[2:]
Ooooo, a mysterious gift for Heidi. How nice!I've had 2 dogs that I got neutered, and each time I cringed because I was so sad I'd never have pups.
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He doesn't move his feet!! That's NOT dancing!
Then get a webcam and show us how it's done, princess!:)
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You know, I really try to like birds. I really do. I listen to their singing, their happy chirping, their little flitting here & there.
But the cat in me always seems to think: "LUNCH!" >:)
Right now.... I'm pondering what kind of questions I'm going to get from my 7+ year old, cause she popped the "Mom, what exactly is sex?" question right when I was dropping her off at school. I gave her a happy but bare minimum answer, but am expecting a deluge sometime soon. Is this a little soon or am I just naive with one kid?