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avg rating 4.46 — 102 ratings — published

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.54 — 35 ratings — published

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.50 — 10 ratings — published

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.82 — 3,333 ratings — published 2019

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.67 — 3 ratings — published 2001

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.90 — 21 ratings — published

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.67 — 3 ratings — published

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.75 — 12 ratings — published 1991

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.25 — 87 ratings — published 1985

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.03 — 115 ratings — published 1985

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.94 — 41,888 ratings — published 1988

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.86 — 645 ratings — published 2020

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.84 — 24,275 ratings — published 2017

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.70 — 33,270 ratings — published 2016

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.32 — 1,264 ratings — published 2006

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 3.87 — 3,335 ratings — published 2009

by (shelved 1 time as scapegoat)
avg rating 4.24 — 45 ratings — published 1964

“Recovering from family scapegoating requires recognizing that being the ‘identified patient’ is symptomatic of generations of systemic dysfunction within one’s family, fueled by unrecognized anxiety and even trauma. In a certain sense, members of a dysfunctional family are participating in a ‘consensual trance‘, i.e., a ‘survival trance’ supported by false narratives, toxic shame, anxiety, and egoic defense mechanisms, such as denial and projection.”
― Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Understanding Family Scapegoating Abuse
― Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Understanding Family Scapegoating Abuse
“Many daughters live out their lives avoiding or abiding or arguing with their mothers-burying the long-ago injury or insult or childhood deprivation under a blanket of forgetfulness-and not confronting it head-on. It's humiliating to remember the ways in which one demeaned oneself in order to prevent being in a mother's bad graces, the willingness to do anything in order to not be rejected, when rejection felt like death.”
― When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life
― When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life