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“Why did they make birds so delicate and fine as those sea swallows when the ocean can be so cruel? She is kind and very beautiful. But she can be so cruel and it comes so suddenly and such birds that fly, dipping and hunting, with their small sad voices are made too delicately for the sea.”
― Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man & The Sea

“When this happens, we can feel entirely out of sync with ourselves. Our thoughts can become overpowering, and we can feel overwhelmed—even frightened—by the sensations that flood our body. Because the trauma existed so early, it often remains hidden beyond our awareness. We know there's a problem, but we can't quite put our finger on the “what happened” part of it. Instead, we surmise that we're the problem, that something inside us is “off” In our fear and anxiety, we often try to control our environment to feel safe. That's because we had so little control when we were small, and there was likely not a safe place for the intense emotions we experienced. Without our consciously changing the pattern, bonding injuries can echo for generations.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“When a child takes on a parent's burden—whether consciously or unconsciously—he or she misses out on the experience of being given to, and can have difficultly receiving from relationships later in life. A child who takes care of a parent often forges a lifelong pattern of overextension and creates a blueprint for habitually feeling overwhelmed.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“The moment we discover our purpose is the moment we tap into an infinite source of energy. This is the moment we realize we weren’t tired; we were just uninspired. As Mark Twain said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”
― Alexander Den Heijer, Nothing You Don't Already Know

“He was contemplation and enthusiasm. Ambition and strong coffee. I could have looked at him forever.”
― E. Lockhart, We Were Liars

“i am a body that carries sadness as if it is the only thing that belongs there. i forget that love and warmth and peace belongs there too.”
― AVA., you are safe here.

“you are not the story they keep telling about you over and over again.
you are not even the story you keep telling yourself.
there are no lines that can hold you.
there are not enough words for all the more that you are.”
― AVA., you are safe here.

“i will not hold my tongue for your ego or your comfort.
too many have fought for my right to speak and still so many have not learned how to listen.”
― AVA., you are safe here.

“Thoughts create. Thinking destroys.”
― Joseph Nguyen, Don't Believe Everything You Think

“If we could say anything to the younger generation, it would be “Do what you like and don’t listen to others”. We tried a lot of things until we found something really original and that we really like. This job requires a lot of courage and patience but it’s worth it, because every day you have to try something new with no boss around—just music, friends, and perseverance.”
― Gem Barton, Don't Get a Job… Make a Job: How to Make it as a Creative Gradute

“Anxiety is thought without control. Flow is control without thought.”
― James Clear

“[...] I realized being at a company this small meant I could physically see my efforts pay off. When I was working for the government, I had struggled with the slow pace, and also with the understanding that I might never know who actually cared about the work I had done.”
― Cait Flanders, The Year of Less: How I Stopped Shopping, Gave Away My Belongings, and Discovered Life Is Worth More Than Anything You Can Buy in a Store

“We all carry a spa with us everywhere we go. t’s just a matter of knowing how to get in.”
― Héctor García, Francesc Miralles

“The path forward is only revealed when we begin walking.”
― Joseph Nguyen, Don't Believe Everything You Think

“You don’t exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.”
― K.C. Davis, How to Keep House While Drowning

“When we pit one parent against the other, we go against the source of our own existence, and unconsciously create a rift inside ourselves. We forget that half of us comes from our mother and half from our father.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“When a parent is rejected or disrespected, one of the children will often represent that parent by sharing the rejected behaviors. In this way, the child makes himself or herself equal to the parent by suffering in a similar way. It is as though the child is saying, “I’ll go through it, too, so that you don’t have to go through it alone.” Loyal in this way, the child continues the suffering into the next generation. I”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“While some of us have rejected a parent, others have merged with a parent in a way that clouds our identity and drains our individuality. In the merged relationship, we might have missed opportunities for self-definition or lost the edges of who we are and what we feel.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Measure your wealth by what you no longer crave.”
― Morgan Housel, The Psychology of Money By Morgan Housel & The Psychology of Management By Sanchit Khullar 2 Books Collection Set

“doing something you love on a schedule you can’t control can feel the same as doing something you hate.”
― Morgan Housel, The Psychology of Money

“The voice in your head matters. Make it your friend, not your enemy.”
― Nick Trenton, The Art of Letting Go: Stop Overthinking, Stop Negative Spirals, and Find Emotional Freedom

“Adults are deteriorated children. When you were much younger, you understood how to live.”
― Robin Sharma

“one who sweats more in training bleeds less in war.”
― Robin S. Sharma, The 5 AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life