“When this happens, we can feel entirely out of sync with ourselves. Our thoughts can become overpowering, and we can feel overwhelmed—even frightened—by the sensations that flood our body. Because the trauma existed so early, it often remains hidden beyond our awareness. We know there's a problem, but we can't quite put our finger on the “what happened” part of it. Instead, we surmise that we're the problem, that something inside us is “off” In our fear and anxiety, we often try to control our environment to feel safe. That's because we had so little control when we were small, and there was likely not a safe place for the intense emotions we experienced. Without our consciously changing the pattern, bonding injuries can echo for generations.”