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“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift.
He makes it safe for her to express herself.
The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

“Like their Martian ancestors, men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places, or solving problems. These are the times when he needs her loving acceptance the most and not her advice or criticism.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Paying attention takes time and focus—two things we’re short on these days. Sitting next to each other while surfing the Web on separate laptops doesn’t cut it. Neither does dinner if your eyes are on your cellphone as much as they’re on your partner. A neglected spouse might not clamor for your attention as aggressively as a pet, but they need the dose of love just as much.”
― Ellen McCarthy, The Real Thing: Lessons on Love and Life from a Wedding Reporter's Notebook

“We ask a lot more of relationships than we're willing to put into them.”
― Ellen McCarthy, The Real Thing: Lessons on Love and Life from a Wedding Reporter's Notebook

“We don't get to move from puppy love straight to the golden years of a decades-old marriage, where every joke and wrinkle is a testament to the enduring strength of your bond. First we have to really learn each other. And, in doing so, we have the opportunity to learn about ourselves in the context of that most wonderful, enriching, confounding entity: a committee relationship.

It's not always as dreamy or exhilarating as falling in love. But this stage isn't about champagne and sweet nothings; it's about bricks and mortar. The idea is to build a solid foundation for your love - hopefully one that will serve you for many years to come.”
― Ellen McCarthy, The Real Thing: Lessons on Love and Life from a Wedding Reporter's Notebook

“When one reader asked when to voice complaints and when to keep the peace, Meinecke responded, "The key is to understand that partners are not renovation projects.”
― Ellen McCarthy, The Real Thing: Lessons on Love and Life from a Wedding Reporter's Notebook

“If we want to be excused for our imperfections and personal failings, then we'd better be ready to offer the same grace to our partners.”
― Ellen McCarthy, The Real Thing: Lessons on Love and Life from a Wedding Reporter's Notebook

“But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs.”
― George Eliot, Middlemarch

“Take the emptiness you hold in your arms
And scatter it into the open spaces we breathe.
Maybe the birds will feel how the air is thinner,
And fly with more affection.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke

“The Talmud states, "Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do justly now, love mercy now, walk humbly now. You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it.”
― Bridges McCall