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“shalt care about your customer. They need to feel like they are important and you care about their needs. If you prove that you are emotionally invested, then you will have a loyal customer for life.”
― Tabatha Coffey, Own It!: Be the Boss of Your Life—at Home and in the Workplace – Take Charge with No-Nonsense Expertise for Business Success

“shalt clean up your act. Customers want a clean, organized, fresh environment. No garbage lying around; no leftover lunches or personal crap littering the space. This is the first impression people get of your business, and if it’s dirty, tired, or cluttered, it’s a bad one that’s difficult to erase.”
― Tabatha Coffey, Own It!: Be the Boss of Your Life—at Home and in the Workplace – Take Charge with No-Nonsense Expertise for Business Success

“I define success by personal growth; if you don’t continue to grow, you can’t continue to succeed.”
― Tabatha Coffey, Own It!: Be the Boss of Your Life—at Home and in the Workplace – Take Charge with No-Nonsense Expertise for Business Success

“As hard as it was to get on top, it’s even harder to stay there.”
― Tabatha Coffey, Own It!: Be the Boss of Your Life—at Home and in the Workplace – Take Charge with No-Nonsense Expertise for Business Success

“We’ve realized that women have souls, and men have feelings.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Sometimes codependents were blamed; sometimes they were ignored; sometimes they were expected to magically shape up (an archaic attitude that has not worked with alcoholics and doesn’t help codependents either).”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Codependents: don’t trust themselves. don’t trust their feelings. don’t trust their decisions. don’t trust other people. try to trust untrustworthy people.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Codependents appear to be depended upon, but they are dependent.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Except for normal human emotions we would be feeling anyway, and twinges of discomfort as we begin to behave differently, recovery from codependency is exciting. It is liberating. It lets us be who we are. It lets other people be who they are.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Recovery is not only fun, it is simple. It is not always easy, but it is simple. It is based on a premise many of us have forgotten or never learned: Each person is responsible for him- or herself. It involves learning one new behavior that we will devote ourselves to: taking care of ourselves.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“It is not enough to merely be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider how you will be interpreted as well.”
― John Gray, Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship – Expert Insights for Singles Seeking Their Perfect Partner

“Learning from mistakes helps prevent the repetition of negative patterns.”
― John Gray, Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship – Expert Insights for Singles Seeking Their Perfect Partner

“Although feelings of attraction are automatic, in order to sustain attraction in a personal relationship we must also be skillful in presenting ourselves in ways that are not just appealing to the other sex but supportive as well. It is not enough to say, “Here I am; take me as I am.”
― John Gray, Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship – Expert Insights for Singles Seeking Their Perfect Partner

“Too much intimacy, too quickly, can cause women to become needy and men to pull away. Just as men have a tendency to rush into physical intimacy, women make the mistake of rushing into complete emotional intimacy.”
― John Gray, Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship – Expert Insights for Singles Seeking Their Perfect Partner

“Frequently, when I suggest to people that they detach from a person or problem, they recoil in horror. “Oh, no!” they say. “I could never do that. I love him, or her, too much. I care too much to do that. This problem or person is too important to me. I have to stay attached!” My answer to that is, “WHO SAYS YOU HAVE TO?” I’ve got news—good news. We don’t “have to.” There’s a better way. It’s called “detachment.”3 It may be scary at first, but it will ultimately work better for everyone involved.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“If you did not have that person or problem in your life, what would you be doing with your life that is different from what you are doing now? How would you be feeling and behaving? Spend a few minutes visualizing yourself living your life, feeling and behaving that way—in spite of your unsolved problem.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“I reacted to other people’s feelings, behaviors, problems, and thoughts. I reacted to what they might by feeling, thinking, or doing. I reacted to my own feelings, my own thoughts, my own problems. My strong point seemed to be reacting to crises—I thought almost everything was a crisis. I overreacted.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Few situations—no matter how greatly they appear to demand it—can be bettered by us going berserk. Why do we do it, then? We react because we’re anxious and afraid of what has happened, what might happen, and what is happening. Many of us react as though everything is a crisis because we have lived with so many crises for so long that crisis reaction has become a habit. We react because we think things shouldn’t be happening the way they are. We react because we don’t feel good about ourselves. We react because most people react. We react because we think we have to react. We don’t have to. We don’t have to be so afraid of people. They are just people like us. We don’t have to forfeit our peace. It doesn’t help. We have the same facts and resources available to us when we’re peaceful that are available to us when we’re frantic and chaotic. Actually we have more resources available because our minds and emotions are free to perform at peak level.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“If you have done nothing to feel embarrassed about, don’t feel embarrassed. I know this is a tough concept, but it can be mastered.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Codependents make great employees. They don’t complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“For each of us, there comes a time to let go. You will know when that time has come. When you have done all that you can do, it is time to detach. Deal with your feelings. Face your fears about losing control. Gain control of yourself and your responsibilities. Free others to be who they are. In so doing, you will set yourself free. ACTIVITY Is there an event or person in your life that you are trying to control? Why? Write a few paragraphs about it.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“We rescue people from their responsibilities. We take care of people’s responsibilities for them. Later we get mad at them for what we’ve done. Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves. That is the pattern, the triangle.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Many codependents, at some time in their lives, were true victims—of someone’s abuse, neglect, abandonment, alcoholism, or any number of situations that can victimize people. We were, at some time, truly helpless to protect ourselves or solve our problems. Something came our way, something we didn’t ask for, and it hurt us terribly. That is sad, truly sad. But an even sadder fact is that many of us codependents began to see ourselves as victims. Our painful history repeats itself. As caretakers, we allow people to victimize us, and we participate in our victimization by perpetually rescuing people. Rescuing or caretaking is not an act of love.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“At the same time, the daughters, in adulthood, must also make the effort to really know their mothers—which many daughters do not—in order to understand what forces shaped those mothers. These daughters need to discover what torment may have unwittingly informed their mothers’ parental choices, and to see their mothers as composites of strengths and weaknesses, rather than as all good or all bad.”
― Victoria Secunda, When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“At the core of this book is a message of empowerment that comes from taking personal responsibility—for yourself, your happiness, your success, and your safety. It’s important to remind young women that they aren’t the victims of their lives, but the architects. They can have professional success as well as domestic bliss if they plan for all of it wisely.”
― Susan Patton, Marry by Choice, Not by Chance: Advice for Finding the Right One at the Right Time

“Codependency is about normal behaviors taken too far. It’s about crossing lines.”
― Melody Beattie, The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

“When you let go of fear and the need to control, you’ll experience how mysterious, sacred, and interesting Life can be.”
― Melody Beattie, The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

“We don’t learn about taking care of ourselves the way we learn math. Although information is useful and sometimes critical, self-care isn’t only an intellectual process. It’s our experiences that change us.”
― Melody Beattie, The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

“Good male friends often make good boyfriends. If you get along with him, you might want to consider him as a potential mate—even if he’s not the hottest guy in the room.”
― Susan Patton, Marry by Choice, Not by Chance: Advice for Finding the Right One at the Right Time