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“I happen to believe that America is dying of loneliness, that we, as a people, have bought into the false dream of convenience, and turned away from a deep engagement with our internal lives—those fountains of inconvenient feeling—and toward the frantic enticements of what our friends in the Greed Business call the Free Market. We’re hurtling through time and space and information faster and faster, seeking that network connection. But at the same time we’re falling away from our families and our neighbors and ourselves. We ego-surf and update our status and brush up on which celebrities are ruining themselves, and how. But the cure won’t stick.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“within the chaos of our shame and disappointment and rage there is meaning, and within that meaning is the possibility of rescue.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“attention is the first and final act of love, and that the ultimate dwindling resource in the human arrangement isn’t cheap oil or potable water or even common sense, but mercy.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“life is short and that all we have to offer, in the end, is love.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“We all love X but want to fuck Z. Z is so gleaming, so crystalline, so unlikely to bitch at you for neglecting to take out the recycling. Nobody has to haggle with Z. Z doesn’t wear a watch. Z is like a motorcycle with no one on it. Beautiful. Going nowhere.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“I’d stopped being grandiose. I’d lowered myself to the notion that the absolute only thing that mattered was getting that extra beating heart out of my chest. Which meant I had to write my book. My very possibly mediocre book. My very possibly never-going-to-be-published book. My absolutely nowhere-in-league-with-the-writers-I’d-admired-so-much-that-I-practically-memorized-their-sentences book.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“Jean-Paul Sartre famously said that “hell is other people,” which is true enough, but truer still is hell is other people’s boyfriends”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“life is long, that people both change and remain the same, that every last one of us will need to fuck up and be forgiven, that we’re all just walking and walking and walking and trying to find our way, that all roads lead eventually to the mountaintop.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“all right is almost always where we eventually land, even if we fuck up entirely along the way.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“You don’t have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don’t have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history or economics or science or the arts.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“The most terrible and beautiful and interesting things happen in a life. For some of you, those things have already happened. Whatever happens to you belongs to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you, because it will. I have learned this over and over and over again.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“And if there’s one thing I believe more than I believe anything else, it’s that you can’t fake the core. The truth that lives there will eventually win out.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“Will you do it later or will you do it now?”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

“to gain an understanding of a world that you know little about, you must encounter it firsthand”
― Jonathan Lazar, Research Methods in Human-Computer Interaction

“Give every data point the attention and scrutiny it deserves, and keep an open mind for alternative explanations that may explain your observations as well as (or better than) your pet theories.”
― Jonathan Lazar, Research Methods in Human-Computer Interaction

“Perhaps the public would be better served by reframing the issue of media violence in terms of public health, where we seldom speak of causality (even with smoking and lung cancer) because of the variability among individuals and the nature of their exposures, but rather of alterations in “relative risk.”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“The media industry’s double standard of seeking to introduce digital devices and content into schools as powerful educational tools while disputing that children learn from or are changed by entertainment media: does not square with logic.”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“the average American child now witnesses more than 10,000 violent crimes (e.g., murder, rape, and assault) each year on television—about 200,000 total violent crimes by the time they are in their teens”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“Realizing when a diversion has gotten out of control is one of the great challenges of life.”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“TV repeatedly triggers our orienting response—the instinctive reaction to pay attention to any sudden, changing, or novel stimulus. This orienting response evolved in the species because it helps us identify potential threats and react to them. Media producers use features such as edits, cuts, zooms, pans, and sudden noises to continually trigger our orienting response. In short, they exploit basic psychological and biological mechanisms to get and keep our attention.”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“when an audience’s emotions are engaged, that audience is more vulnerable to suggestion”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“Kubey and Csikszentmihalyi report that 2 out of 5 adults and 7 out of 10 children say that they watch too much TV. Also, viewers often feel that they can’t stop watching TV. Furthermore, while people report increased good moods after activities such as sports and hobbies, they report being in the same mood or in a worse mood after watching TV”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“Research also shows that children who habitually view highly attention-grabbing media are more likely to have later attention and impulse-control problems, both of which are related to aggression and school performance”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“Given the findings that television viewers enjoy violent and nonviolent programs equally (or enjoy nonviolent more than violent), how is it that media executives still follow the mantra “violence sells”? The answer: because violence brings a larger viewership”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“The propensity of research participants to choose violent programs suggests that people are drawn to view violent programs. However, in the end, those choosing violent programs may end up not enjoying them.”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“violent content in the film clips actually impaired participants’ memories of the products”
― Douglas A. Gentile, Media Violence and Children: A Complete Guide for Parents and Professionals, 2nd Edition

“Ask yourself if you’re happy. If you are, you’re successful. The happier you are, the more successful you are.”
― Jeff Haden, TransForm: Dramatically Improve Your Career, Business, Relationships, and Life: One Simple Step at a Time

“What you achieve isn’t nearly as important as the fact you achieve something. Pick a goal you’re suited for and go after it. Doing something—in fact, doing anything—most other people cannot or will not do will make you proud, fulfilled, and a lot happier.”
― Jeff Haden, TransForm: Dramatically Improve Your Career, Business, Relationships, and Life: One Simple Step at a Time

“Either way, remember that while the only person who really cares how you look is you, plenty of people care about the things you do.”
― Jeff Haden, TransForm: Dramatically Improve Your Career, Business, Relationships, and Life: One Simple Step at a Time

“Losses come in a variety of forms, but the worst thing we can lose is faith in ourselves: in our ideas, in our skills and talents, and in our willingness and ability to overcome challenges and achieve our dreams.”
― Jeff Haden, TransForm: Dramatically Improve Your Career, Business, Relationships, and Life: One Simple Step at a Time