J > J's Quotes

“When you go through tragedy, you can either let that destroy you and you become bitter and never let it go, or you can let it make you stronger and let it make you grow. And that's what I did. My lyrics are coming from a place that I want people to relate to and feel that they're not alone.”
― Evanescence

“A half-read book is a half-finished love affair.”
― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas

“When someone you love dies, and you're not expecting it, you don't lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time—the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate the parts of her that are gone. Just when the day comes—when there's a particular missing part that overwhelms you with the feeling that she's gone, forever—there comes another day, and another specifically missing part.”
― John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany

“There should be a statute of limitation on grief. A rulebook that says it is all right to wake up crying, but only for a month. That after 42 days you will no longer turn with your heart racing, certain you have heard her call out your name. That there will be no fine imposed if you feel the need to clean out her desk; take down her artwork from the refrigerator; turn over a school portrait as you pass - if only because it cuts you fresh again to see it. That it's okay to measure the time she has been gone, the way we once measured her birthdays.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper

“1- Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
― Dennis Waller, Zen and Tao, A Little Book on Buddhist Thought and Meditation

“No one ever expects to become ill, it just sort of happens to us. For some, it is a slow process, while for others they are befallen rather quickly with an illness. You may have been searching for years for a diagnosis, a name for your pain, or maybe you were diagnosed rather quickly after your symptoms started showing. I”
― Jennifer Corter, Positivity in Pain

“By seeking out a therapist, social worker, or even just someone to talk to who isn't family or friends, will help a great deal to help you work out your feelings. Our lives were essentially ripped right from underneath our feet, that isn't something that is menial or minuscule. We mustn't downplay our feelings. By doing so would only hinder our personal growth and block our path to healing ourselves emotionally. Never neglect your mental health in lieu of your physical health. If you feel you need to see a mental health professional, do it. If you need help seeking someone out, ask for it. There is no shame in asking for help. If”
― Jennifer Corter, Positivity in Pain

“Ah, guilt. One of the most painful human emotions that one can experience. Even without the burden of an illness, guilt is a part of life. But so many who live with a chronic condition feel intense guilt. When I had first found out that I was pregnant with my son, the very first emotion that kicked in wasn't pure joy or excitement, there were not any happy tears shed from me. My very first thought when I saw the positive pregnancy test was "What kind of mom am I going to be? What if my child grows up to hate me because I can't do everything he'll want to do?" Guilt is such a common emotion that surrounds us. Even those who aren't parents experience it in other ways, guilt over not being able to work anymore, guilt over not getting the chores finished, and the list can go on and on. It can turn into a relentless cycle of self-blame. There is something important to remember here, when guilt decides to sneak up on you. You did not ask for any of this. None of this is in your control, it is not your fault. I do not care if you have to repeat this out loud over and over again to make it stick, but I want you to know that you are still awesome, despite these shitty illnesses.”
― Jennifer Corter, Positivity in Pain

“Remember why you are with the person you are with. They chose you for a good reason. You are special, and that is not just some spiel that I am saying to get you to smile. You really are, just like I have said all throughout this book, every person here on this beautiful planet is amazingly unique in their own special ways.”
― Jennifer Corter, Positivity in Pain