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“Because in that whole place, you were the only one who looked at me like I was a person and not a nuisance. Because when I looked at you I could see adventure hiding behind your eyes. Because you gave me a tomato, even when you shouldn’t have.”
― Scarlett Gale, His Secret Illuminations

“He wants that, wants her to override his anxieties, wants to give himself to her, but more than that he wants her to take what she wants.”
― Scarlett Gale, His Secret Illuminations

“Ultimately the men who choose against violence, against death, do so because they want to live fully and well, because they want to know love. These are men who are true heroes, the men whose lives we need to know about, honor, and remember.”
― bell hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

“In the early 1950s, the psychiatrist René Spitz was asked to consult at a number of orphanages with unusually high death rates in the infants in their care.22 These babies were regularly fed, changed, swaddled, and burped. But Spitz found that the babies were never spoken to, jostled, or played with—in a word, they never emotionally synchronized with an adult. Failure to thrive syndrome was the official name for what happened. In plain English, these babies died from loneliness.”
― Terrence Real, Us: Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship

“In the absence of any objective criteria of right and wrong, good or evil, the self and its feelings become our moral guide … The right act is simply the one that yields the agent the most exciting challenge or the most good feeling about himself.24 … Utility replaces duty; self-expression unseats authority. “Being good” becomes “feeling good.”
― Terrence Real, Us: Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship

“Functional actions in a relationship are moves that empower your partner to come through for you. Dysfunctional actions are those that render your partner paralyzed.”
― Terrence Real, Us: Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship