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“Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.”
― Nayyirah Waheed

“Confrontation helps us learn about ourselves and change destructive patterns.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
― Steve Jobs

“Someone who does not own his need to change does not change, and the hurt is likely to continue.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Psychologists call this dynamic a “not me” experience: People have a character structure that does not allow them to see certain realities as part of themselves. They project things onto others and cannot own their own flaws.”
― Henry Cloud

“Unsafe people only apologize instead of changing their behavior.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“But in reality they are more sorry about getting caught. They do not change, and the future will be exactly like the past.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“The prognosis for change is always better when it is not motivated by a “getting caught” episode, but by real confession and coming to the light about what is wrong. Sometimes, when someone is “caught,” he will repent and change, but that repentance can only be tested over time.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Unsafe people blame others instead of taking responsibility.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Unsafe people lie instead of telling the truth.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“In a relationship, honesty is the bedrock foundation of a safe relationship. To the degree that there is deception, there is danger.”
― Henry Cloud

“If you are uneasy about a relationship, ask yourself, Does this relationship breed more togetherness or more isolation within me? If you feel alone in the relationship, that’s not a good sign. But remember: the first person to look at is yourself. Your sense of detachment may be from some block inside of you. Sometimes our own fears and conflicts make it difficult for us to feel connected to someone. The problem can be ours. It can be theirs. And it can be both.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Jesus warns us to face first what is inside our hearts, and only then will we be able to judge others accurately and pick safe relationships. Our own character issues blind us to the destructiveness of other people. We must first realize that we have a problem in being able to judge character before we can stop playing the naive victim.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Healing without grief does not happen, and grief without support and new love does not happen either.”
― Henry Cloud, Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

“Anger is a poison you mix for your friend but drink yourself,”
― Eve Ensler, The Apology

“The LORD says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life.        I will advise you and watch over you.    9 Do not be like a senseless horse or mule        that needs a bit and bridle to keep it under control.”    10 Many sorrows come to the wicked,        but unfailing love surrounds those who trust the LORD.    11 So rejoice in the LORD and be glad, all you who obey him!        Shout for joy, all you whose hearts are pure!”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“Don’t worry about the wicked        or envy those who do wrong.    2 For like grass, they soon fade away.        Like spring flowers, they soon wither.    3 Trust in the LORD and do good.        Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.    4 Take delight in the LORD,        and he will give you your heart’s desires.    5 Commit everything you do to the LORD.        Trust him, and he will help you.    6 He will make your innocence radiate like the dawn,        and the justice of your cause will shine like the noonday sun.    7 Be still in the presence of the LORD,        and wait patiently for him to act.    Don’t worry about evil people who prosper        or fret about their wicked schemes.    8 Stop being angry!        Turn from your rage!    Do not lose your temper—        it only leads to harm.    9 For the wicked will be destroyed,        but those who trust in the LORD will possess the land.    10 Soon the wicked will disappear.        Though you look for them, they will be gone.    11 The lowly will possess the land        and will live in peace and prosperity.    12 The wicked plot against the godly;        they snarl at them in defiance.    13 But the Lord just laughs,        for he sees their day of judgment coming.    14 The wicked draw their swords        and string their bows”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“Stop being angry!        Turn from your rage!    Do not lose your temper—        it only leads to harm.    9 For the wicked will be destroyed,        but those who trust in the LORD will possess the land.    10 Soon the wicked will disappear.        Though you look for them, they will be gone.    11 The lowly will possess the land        and will live in peace and prosperity.”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“The wicked plot against the godly;        they snarl at them in defiance.    13 But the Lord just laughs,        for he sees their day of judgment coming.”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“The LORD rescues the godly;        he is their fortress in times of trouble.    40 The LORD helps them,        rescuing them from the wicked.    He saves them,        and they find shelter in him.”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“LORD, remind me how brief my time on earth will be.        Remind me that my days are numbered—        how fleeting my life is.    5 You have made my life no longer than the width of my hand.        My entire lifetime is just a moment to you;        at best, each of us is but a breath.”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“Anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return.        Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt.    8 So don’t bother correcting mockers;        they will only hate you.    But correct the wise,        and they will love you.    9 Instruct the wise,        and they will be even wiser.    Teach the righteous,        and they will learn even more.”
― Anonymous, The One Year Chronological Bible NLT

“Momma prays like she’s talking over God, and if God were to talk back she wouldn’t even hear Him.”
― Jasmine Mans, Black Girl, Call Home

“I know trauma uses silence as a survival mechanism.”
― Jasmine Mans, Black Girl, Call Home

“Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been.”
― David Bowie