“When children are neglected, they learn not to expect too much, and that they have to do things for themselves because no one is going to be there for them. Often, because they are still children and their brains are not fully developed, they make poor choices that lead to negative outcomes. As adults, they may teach themselves to deny or minimize traumatic childhoods by telling themselves that it wasn’t so bad after all, while living in a constant state of anxiety—waiting for (and expecting) things to go awry. When life does bring happy and joyful events, they engage in catastrophic thinking because this is how they learned to think.”