“Diets are a waste of time, sabotage is certain, if you need extra weight for safety or if food is the way you comfort yourself. Instead of setting yourself up for another failure, give yourself the opportunity to learn to meet your needs and protect yourself. Weight, of course, is a complicated problem. Many people hope that when they do learn to protect themselves, the weight will melt automatically. But for most of us, other things need to be attended to. In any case, boundary formation is essential to recovering from bingeing. Attending to your insides is an important part of changing the outside.”