“THE SECOND MARK of existence is egolessness, sometimes called no-self. These words can be misleading. They don’t mean that we disappear—or that we erase our personality. Egolessness means that the fixed idea that we have about ourselves as solid and separate from each other is painfully limiting. That we take ourselves so seriously, that we are so absurdly important in our own minds, is a problem. Self-importance is like a prison for”