“I have come to believe that some patterns of resistance offer a better chance for victory than others. Both times I was raped I was by myself. I was isolated. I did not possess a manifest or an invisible-but-known-and-building-community. Both times I was shocked by what was happening as it was happening and, therefore, I lost force lost speed needed for resistance. And I think that costly paralysis of my shock directly devolved from my isolation, fro my not knowing other women who had been raped, from my not knowing that rape happens mostly between men that you take for granted as a friend part of your regular life and yourself, your body suddenly chosen for violent domination: Chosen for rape.”