“Searching Questions On a scale of 1 to 10, how difficult do you expect marriage to be? (1 = always easy, if you’re truly in love; 10 = a difficult challenge every day) How do you think a person’s perception of the difficulty of marriage will influence whom he or she marries? Would you consider marrying someone you felt deeply in love with, even if you didn’t think that person was very mature? Where do you draw the line—how mature must someone be (relationally) in order for you to feel comfortable marrying him or her? Have you known any families or couples that had to endure serious medical difficulties? How did that affect their relationship? How did what you observed affect what qualities you expect in the person you’re looking to marry? Would you be willing to marry someone who makes you laugh, whose company you enjoy, and whom you are sexually attracted to, even if you’re not sure this person would be a good parent? Why or why not? How can you tell ahead of time how good a parent someone might be?”