“We’ve learned that we’re all made of the same parts, organized in different ways—no two alike. That sexual response is the process of both turning on the ons and turning off the offs. That context—your environment and your mental state—influences how and when the ons and offs activate. We’ve learned that genital response and being “turned on” aren’t always the same thing. That desire can be spontaneous or responsive, and both are normal. That some women orgasm pretty reliably from intercourse, most don’t, both are normal, and neither is a bigger deal than you want it to be. Above all, we’ve learned that it’s not how your sexuality functions that determines whether your sex life is characterized by worry and distress… or by confidence and joy. It’s your capacity to welcome your sexuality as it is right now.”