“The most disturbing part of the balance of power in my relationship with Pete is that I was complicit, chipping off pieces of myself and offering them to him until all that was left is who I am now. Because when things first started feeling not-quite-right between us, I panicked. That wedding dress charm was firmly affixed to my bracelet, and we’d promised all those wedding guests that we’d stay married forever. I was determined to make it work.”