“the authentic position is that of a changeling who becomes aware that it only materializes another’s fantasy, that it only exists insofar as an another fantasizes about it. Can one imagine a more anxiety-provoking existential situation than that of being aware that my being has no substantial support, that I exist only insofar as I am part of another’s dream—as Deleuze wrote decades ago, if you are caught in another’s dream, you are fucked.”