“Femininity, then, is attributed to those who are weaker, those who are victims, and those who submit. Femininity represents the survival strategy of a victim of threatened or actual violence, who, because she or he sees no way to escape or to successfully win in a violent showdown, assumes the role of subordinate. Femininity is also attributed to one who attempts to win over an enemy by inducing that foe to stop its violence and threats of violence. Here I argue that femininity is a blue print for how to get along with oneís enemy by trying to win over the enemy. Femininity is a Stockholm Syndrome response. -- Loving To Survive: Sexual Terror, Men's Violence, and Women's Lives”