“In other words, there is an important difference between idealizations that are ignited by some (visible or invisible) detail of the other’s being that we find appealing, and ones that arise from, and faithfully cater to, the self-serving circuit of our fantasies of interpersonal gratification. It is, moreover, crucial to keep in mind that our idealized vision of the other is merely one way of approaching the other—that it does not sum up or capture the other’s entire being—because the moment we equate our idealized vision with the other’s “essence,” we desecrate the other’s status as a creature of open-ended becoming.”