“When someone is assertive, they will think something like this:
“I know what my needs are, and I will communicate them to you.”
The healthiest way to communicate your boundaries is to be assertive. In contrast to all the forms of ineffective communication previously mentioned, assertiveness is how you clearly and directly state your needs.
Assertiveness involves communicating your feelings openly and without attacking others. It isn’t demanding. Instead, it’s a way of commanding that people hear you.
More examples of assertiveness:
• Saying no to anything you don’t want to do
• Telling people how you feel as a result of their behaviour
• Sharing your honest thoughts about your experiences
• Responding in the moment
• Instead of talking to a third party, talking directly to the person you have issue with
• Making your expectations clear up front instead of assuming people will them out”