“I wasn’t just working on technique, I was working on my identity as a cook. I hadn’t fallen back on food as a safety net because I believed it to be the only skill I had ever really learned; it was becoming my absolute passion. I understood then, in perfect clarity, what drove my father to do what he did all those years, even at the expense of his family. But while feeding people was a driving force, it wasn’t in spite of my family, it was for them. And for the first time in so very long, it was something for me, too.”