“When you are going through a challenging phase, it’s also important to remind your partner that it’s not their fault. You can be open about what you need but clarify to your partner that this is your burden, not theirs. In fact, if you’re stuck and uninspired regarding your own purpose, it might be an ideal opportunity to direct your free time and energy toward your partner’s pursuits (later in this rule I’ll tell you how). This clear-eyed approach allows you to discover new ways to nurture your own, independent purpose. You”