“One example is the concept that vulnerability is safety. The old habit of holding something back in order to be safe doesn’t really work. Holding back that last 20% of effort doesn’t protect me. When my project fails, the fact that I didn’t give my all doesn’t actually make me feel better. It doesn’t protect me from a sense of failure that I couldn’t make the project work. If I do my very best writing a program and people don’t like it, I can still feel justly good about myself. This attitude allows me to feel safe no matter the circumstance. If how I feel is based on an accurate read on whether I did my best, I can feel good about myself by doing my best.”