“Now just because the Adaptive Child part of you is rigid does not mean it is always outwardly aggressive. You can have an overly accommodating, people-pleasing Adaptive Child. Your Adaptive Child can tend toward superiority, it can tend toward inferiority, or it can bounce back and forth. But whether it’s more dominating or withdrawn, it will react pretty much the same way whenever you’re triggered. This set point reaction, this relational modus operandi, is your relational stance, the thing you will do over and over again when you are stressed.”