“Of course, there are problems with depending solely on other people to change how we feel about ourselves. Romantic relationships may end, therapists may move away or become unaffordable. And those we rely upon often have their own dragons to slay—sickness, depression, job stress—that prevent them from being there for us when we need them. Fortunately, we don’t have to solely rely on others to change our self views. When we consistently give ourselves nurturance and understanding, we also come to feel worthy of care and acceptance. When we give ourselves empathy”