(?)
Quotes are added by the Goodreads community and are not verified by Goodreads. (Learn more)

“It is also a part of "poisonous pedagogy" to impart to the child from the beginning false information and beliefs that have been passed on from generation to generation and dutifully accepted by the young even though they are not only unproven but are demonstrably false. Examples of such beliefs are:

1. A feeling of duty produces love.
2. Hatred can be done away with by forbidding it.
3. Parents deserve respect simply because they are parents.
4. Children are undeserving of respect simply because they are children.
5. Obedience makes a child strong.
6. A high degree of self-esteem is harmful.
7. A low degree of self-esteem makes a person altruistic.
8. Tenderness (doting) is harmful.
9. Responding to a child's needs is wrong.
10. Severity and coldness are a good preparation for life.
11. A pretense of gratitude is better than honest ingratitude.
12. The way you behave is more important than the way you really are.
13. Neither parents nor God would survive being offended.
14. The body is something dirty and disgusting.
15. Strong feelings are harmful.
16. Parents are creatures free of drives and guilt.
17. Parents are always right.”

Alice Miller, For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
Read more quotes from Alice Miller


Share this quote:
Share on Twitter

Friends Who Liked This Quote

To see what your friends thought of this quote, please sign up!

1 like
All Members Who Liked This Quote



This Quote Is From

For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence by Alice Miller
2,222 ratings, average rating, 148 reviews
Open Preview

Browse By Tag