“The child translates that message something like this: When I am good, I am loved. When I'm bad, I am cut off. Put your self in the child's place. What would you do?...God created people with a need for attachment and relationship. Parents who pull away from their child are, in essence, practicing spiritual and emotional blackmail. The child can either pretend to not disagree and keep the relationship, or he can continue to separate and lose his most important relationship in the world. He will most likely keep quiet.”