“If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to
be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” your response is so common
and expected that it doesn’t really mean anything...Everybody wants that. It’s easy to want that.
A more interesting question, a question that most people never consider, is,
“What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?” Because
that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.”