Goodreads asked Sue Fagalde Lick:

Where did you get the idea for your most recent book?

Sue Fagalde Lick Childless by Marriage came out of my own life. When I first got the idea, I was working on a book about Portuguese-American women (Stories Grandma Never Told). That one had come out of my realization that my Portuguese background played an important role in who I was and what I did in my life. In a similar way, I realized my childlessness made me different from most other women.

At the time I started research for this book, my childless state was very much on my mind. Married twice, with three stepchildren but no children of my own, I saw the doors closing forever on my chances to be a mom. I grieved the loss and felt the world was constantly reminding me that I was different. I found very few books about childlessness and none that addressed my particular situation. Most focused on infertility. A few were about people who consciously chose not to have children. My situation was different. I was childless not because I didn’t want children or because I was unable to have them, but because my husbands didn’t want to have babies. I soon discovered I wasn’t alone. I needed to tell our story about what it’s really like to be childless by marriage. It took many years to get it published, but I’m glad I did it. The thousands of people who have read and commented at my Childless by Marriage blog show that this is a subject that needs to be addressed.

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