Jake Marron
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C. JoyBell C.:
Hi, I loved your quote about writing.and all the bleeding goes on. My best friend is an aspiring writer. I think she is a wonderful writer, but I can see how she bleeds at times. It is so personal to her, the words.She gets disappointed at times. Any advice you could pass along to her? :-) PS- I lust the words you write. I would have said Love, but lust is a much more powerful word ;-)
C. JoyBell C.
Hey, Jake! I recognize your name, you've been reading my work for a long time now, haven't you? :)
Thanks for your question; if I'm not mistaken, you are asking about what advice I can give to your friend, who loves to write, but who often feels disappointed because it's a very personal process to her (i.e. bleeding)?
I am not so sure if you are asking me specifically how she can stop feeling disappointed, and I am also not so sure why exactly she feels "disappointed"... but I'll give your question my best shot, based upon what I do understand from it...
Tell your friend that if she is the type of writer who bleeds what she writes, then she can't expect the process of writing to be easy. Bleeding is never easy! Especially when people come along and criticize you! Because usually, people who are not writers don't realize what's going on there, so they come along and give their opinions and oftentimes that can become very hurtful.
Through the many years that I have been writing, I have experienced going through a process... at first, I had to really thicken my skin, then later on I learned to stick up for myself (with that thick skin), then by and by, I realized that I was becoming callous and defensive and really unfeeling. So that's when I stopped myself and I began to learn that it's the soft things that don't break. The goal is softness. And then I took a more spiritual and metaphysical turn on my path, and really just immersed myself in peace from within... I think what I'm trying to say, is that on anyone's journey in life, we need to focus on our inner journey, really, and realize that what happens on the outside is a reflection of what happens at a quantum level within. In other words, you friend needs to delve deeply into her own spirit and soul and mind, find the peace there, become all that she can become, before looking around to see how her words are affecting others, or whether or not other people are happy with her, and so on and so forth. It's all about that inner journey and writing is just an overflow of the wine glass of life. Writing should never become anything other than that. So, you've got to have that wine glass and fill it with wine first, before you begin to look around and start caring if other people are drinking the same type of wine as you are, or not!
I hope that I have helped your friend with this answer, and thank for you asking a question, feel free to ask more in the future!
C. Bells
Hey, Jake! I recognize your name, you've been reading my work for a long time now, haven't you? :)
Thanks for your question; if I'm not mistaken, you are asking about what advice I can give to your friend, who loves to write, but who often feels disappointed because it's a very personal process to her (i.e. bleeding)?
I am not so sure if you are asking me specifically how she can stop feeling disappointed, and I am also not so sure why exactly she feels "disappointed"... but I'll give your question my best shot, based upon what I do understand from it...
Tell your friend that if she is the type of writer who bleeds what she writes, then she can't expect the process of writing to be easy. Bleeding is never easy! Especially when people come along and criticize you! Because usually, people who are not writers don't realize what's going on there, so they come along and give their opinions and oftentimes that can become very hurtful.
Through the many years that I have been writing, I have experienced going through a process... at first, I had to really thicken my skin, then later on I learned to stick up for myself (with that thick skin), then by and by, I realized that I was becoming callous and defensive and really unfeeling. So that's when I stopped myself and I began to learn that it's the soft things that don't break. The goal is softness. And then I took a more spiritual and metaphysical turn on my path, and really just immersed myself in peace from within... I think what I'm trying to say, is that on anyone's journey in life, we need to focus on our inner journey, really, and realize that what happens on the outside is a reflection of what happens at a quantum level within. In other words, you friend needs to delve deeply into her own spirit and soul and mind, find the peace there, become all that she can become, before looking around to see how her words are affecting others, or whether or not other people are happy with her, and so on and so forth. It's all about that inner journey and writing is just an overflow of the wine glass of life. Writing should never become anything other than that. So, you've got to have that wine glass and fill it with wine first, before you begin to look around and start caring if other people are drinking the same type of wine as you are, or not!
I hope that I have helped your friend with this answer, and thank for you asking a question, feel free to ask more in the future!
C. Bells
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Jerry Lee
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C. JoyBell C.:
I find your quotes to be very uplifting I have used some of your quotes as prompts in my poetry contests as a way to make them think as they put pen to paper. they were a lot of fun to judge them, I started writing poems over fours years ago Your work has inspired me greatly I just wanted you to know that Do you write from personal experiences too??? Thank you, Jerry
Lauren Miles
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C. JoyBell C.:
I look up to you in so many ways. As a young, growing women you inspire me! When I read your quotes, they seem so raw to me and they really make me think in depth about myself & life. I am not going to lie I just spent the last 2 hours reading your quotes while I am at work. What advice do you have for me, a young women trying to find my path in life? I have so much potential and I am searching for my true passions.
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