Valerie
asked
Rose Rosetree:
Hi Rose - I appreciate that you answer questions! “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days” was incredibly useful for me. You presented ideas I haven’t heard anywhere else. My favorite new idea involves unskilled empath merge, how it works. You even included illustrations. How did you make this discovery? What do you wish every empath could understand about unskilled empath merge? Thank you!! Valerie
Rose Rosetree
Valerie, I’m just delighted to hear from you, especially it’s good to learn that the system of Empath Empowerment® has been incredibly useful for you.
Results for readers: That’s the point of every how-to book, isn’t it?
Fact is, I’ve written many books. And I’ve rewritten many of these books, but no other book from me yet... has been rewritten so many times as this one.
* First published in 2001, “Empowered by Empathy” was the first book for empaths in English.
* After I lived with that knowledge, and taught it in live workshops on three continents, I rewrote it significantly as “Become the Most Important Person in the Room.” That was in 2009.
* Again, I kept on growing as a teacher. Both personal experience, and teaching skills, grew within me. For that reason, I did one more major rewrite. This resulted in the book you’re asking about, “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days” – published in 2018.
THINK LANDLINE, FLIP PHONE, SMART PHONE
Quite a gap of years between each rewrite! Let me give you Goodreaders an analogy about all the refinement of knowledge contained in that book you asked about, Valerie.
Think with me for a moment, think about the amazing advances in phone technology that you and I have lived through.
What if each of my empath books had been like a telephone?
* I was offering the LANDLINE version in 2001.
* That book version became like a FLIP PHONE in 2009.
.* Weird but true, Valerie, you’ve been reading the equivalent of a SMARTPHONE version, published as “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days” in 2018.
By now, Amazon.com in America sells over 8,000 books for empaths, but they all began with this landline-flip phone-smartphone of a how-to.
And you’re right that it is unusual for any book for empaths to go into the topic of unskilled empath merge. Come to think of it:
1, What IS any kind of empath merge, let alone an unskilled empath merge?
2, Why does DOING unskilled empath merge create so many problems?
3, And how can we PREVENT those problems? Although the default for every born empath is to do unskilled empath merge, there has to be a skill we can learn, so as to stop doing it.
The unique power of “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days”—like the unique system of Empath Empowerment®, depends upon answering these three questions.
Valerie, here you have asked two altogether different questions. It would be lovely if you – or another Goodreader – would ask the foundational three questions I’ve just posed.
Meanwhile, you asked those two altogether different questions, so I’ll do what I can to answer them here. But I’m going to restate that first question a bit differently, just so that I can do a better job of answering it.
QUESTION 1. How did you discover unskilled empath merge?
Fact is, Valerie, even with all the how-to books for empaths that others have published since I founded the field, guess what? Far as I know, no other empath coach – that is, no writer of how-to books for empaths – has written answers to those above-mentioned 1-2-3 questions about unskilled empath merge.
Weird, isn’t it? Since unskilled empath merge is the central cause of the difficulties that create suffering for empaths.
Furthermore, for context, let’s acknowledge this. How 1 in 20 people alive now... each of us was born as an empath. Statistically, then, unskilled empath merge counts as a pretty important problem to solve.
Another way to put your first question might be helpful at this point, so here goes.
TWEAKED QUESTION 1. How did I become the first person to discover unskilled empath merge?
Yes, I’m going to answer that variant of your original question. (Hope you don’t mind, Valerie.)
* How did I become that first person?
* How did I become the only person so far (to my knowledge) who doesn’t only write books for empaths but offers systematic instruction in solving the problem of unskilled empath merge?
PICTURE THIS
The year is 1971. The place is Mallorca -- an island in Spain. There I am, in a hotel room that’s maybe two steps up from a Motel 6. Only it’s in Spain, for heaven’s sake, where the air smells of oranges and the rich, fragrant soil. So who cares about having a very basic hotel room?
Look, I feel incredibly fortunate to be living there for two months. You see, Goodreaders, I am studying with His Holiness Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. I’m studying in order to complete my Teacher Training Course, so that I can become one of Maharishi’s initiators and teach Transcendental Meditation (TM).
What is my daily schedule? Every evening, our group meets in a large lecture hall, where Maharishi dazzles us, instructing us in how to become this kind of spiritual teacher.
Three meals a day, we’re seated in the hotel restaurant, eating at a large round table covered in a heavy white tablecloth.
What matters most, though, happens in hotel rooms like mine. Maharishi has asked us to do “unlimited rounding.” What does that mean?
When we’re not taking our meals or asking Maharishi questions during those evening lectures, our job involves meditation. (Rounding means alternating meditation with brief supplements, in the form of yoga asanas and breathing exercises.)
We’re supposed to do “unlimited rounding” for as many hours as possible. On this particular day, I manage to do 15 hours. That becomes my personal record.
Most days I can’t manage to meditate for that long. Sometimes I'll crash into blackout sleep… as if I drank so much whiskey that I’ve passed out.
Or sometimes, my meditation sequence is interrupted because I’ve released so much “stress” (Maharishi’s term of art in TM) from all that meditation. For long stretches of time, all that I can do is cry, and cry hard.
Doing all that meditation can take a lot out of a person, but who counts the cost? Because this rounding is teaching me about consciousness, the spiritual awareness within each of us.
As a TM teacher, I will need to become very familiar with the fine fabric of consciousness within myself… and also, to some extent, what’s happening to the consciousness within my students.
Later, that In-Depth Exploration of Consciousness Helps Me to Teach Empaths, Too
In fact, the entire system of Empath Empowerment® has been designed because of what I’ve learned, and continue to learn, about the consciousness aspect of being an empath.
Granted, this kind of understanding was fairly unusual, back in the 1970s. Or 1980s. Or 1990s. All of which I spent with my main passion in life being what? Either I was personally meditating or else I was teaching others how to meditate.
Due to this kind of experience, plus skills that I learned in 1985 for how to cocreate with the Divine (btw, all this could count as answers to some different questions you might ask me here in the future, Goodreaders) I was able to learn about – you guessed it – what happens to the consciousness of empaths.
HERE’S A SECRET ABOUT EMPATHS THAT FEW PEOPLE KNOW
Being an empath involves consciousness. Both what it means to be an empath in the first place. And also what happens with unskilled empath merge. Plus, also how to become a Skilled Empath.
Due to all that specialized exploration of consciousness, I was able to cocreate the system of Empath Empowerment® and write the four books that I now make available in my series for empaths.
Besides Book 1 “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days,” you can read these:
* “The Empowered Empath: Quick and Easy.” That’s Book 2 of the series.
* “The Empowered Empath: Owning, Embracing and Managing Your Special Gifts.” That’s Book 3.
* “The Master Empath.” That’s Book 4.
QUESTION 2. What do you wish every empath could understand about unskilled empath merge?
This question has a very practical answer. Even if you don’t know much at all (yet) about unskilled empath merge, please know this.
Unskilled empaths suffer. Some of us suffer more than others.
So Important to Know
All of us unskilled empaths suffer, even if we know nothing yet about Empath Empowerment®. Hey, we might not even know that we’re empaths.
Still, we suffer. Subconsciously and energetically, we’re constantly taking on pain, confusions, and worries from other people.
Annoyingly, as you can find out if you develop Empath Empowerment, you’re not even helping those other people. Grrrrr, right?
Doing unskilled empath merge serves no practical purpose, but here’s the thing. What starts off within us as an annoying thing that all empaths do, without meaning to…
Doing this unskilled thing… uses (or misuses) the very same capacities within us as empaths... that we can learn how to use on purpose. What do I mean, learn to use those capacities on purpose? That is called doing Skilled Empath Merge.
Those Skilled Empath Merges can become a wonderful source of knowledge for us. Especially beautiful if, in any way, that empath cares about service to others.
Any kind of service that you do for others! Like you, Valerie, and how your day job involves helping a group of blue collar workers who don’t ordinarily receive a lot of respect from society.
1. If you care about helping others, bringing more social justice into this world.
2. If you care about helping others as an artist or a musician or even a writer.
3. If you care about helping others, simply because you love God. And so you feel a passion deep within you, that you must put that caring into action.
For reasons like these, not only CAN you learn how to do Skilled Empath Merge. But, once you've learned, how much better you will do that job that means so much to you!
Differently Put, If Better Service to Others Can Help You to Fulfill the Purpose of Your Life
And if you were born an empath…
Learning Skilled Empath Merge can help you to fulfill the purpose of your life, and do it more beautifully than you can now imagine.
One of the sayings I teach in Energy Spirituality® workshops goes like this:
For every good thing in your life, you must pay the price.
Suffering through through unskilled empath merge is the price that every born empath pays. Like a downpayment, Valerie, on how much you can learn, how much you can give, and all that you can receive… once you start living as a Skilled Empath.
Thanks again for asking these questions. Thanks for asking them here at “Ask the Author” on Goodreads.
Results for readers: That’s the point of every how-to book, isn’t it?
Fact is, I’ve written many books. And I’ve rewritten many of these books, but no other book from me yet... has been rewritten so many times as this one.
* First published in 2001, “Empowered by Empathy” was the first book for empaths in English.
* After I lived with that knowledge, and taught it in live workshops on three continents, I rewrote it significantly as “Become the Most Important Person in the Room.” That was in 2009.
* Again, I kept on growing as a teacher. Both personal experience, and teaching skills, grew within me. For that reason, I did one more major rewrite. This resulted in the book you’re asking about, “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days” – published in 2018.
THINK LANDLINE, FLIP PHONE, SMART PHONE
Quite a gap of years between each rewrite! Let me give you Goodreaders an analogy about all the refinement of knowledge contained in that book you asked about, Valerie.
Think with me for a moment, think about the amazing advances in phone technology that you and I have lived through.
What if each of my empath books had been like a telephone?
* I was offering the LANDLINE version in 2001.
* That book version became like a FLIP PHONE in 2009.
.* Weird but true, Valerie, you’ve been reading the equivalent of a SMARTPHONE version, published as “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days” in 2018.
By now, Amazon.com in America sells over 8,000 books for empaths, but they all began with this landline-flip phone-smartphone of a how-to.
And you’re right that it is unusual for any book for empaths to go into the topic of unskilled empath merge. Come to think of it:
1, What IS any kind of empath merge, let alone an unskilled empath merge?
2, Why does DOING unskilled empath merge create so many problems?
3, And how can we PREVENT those problems? Although the default for every born empath is to do unskilled empath merge, there has to be a skill we can learn, so as to stop doing it.
The unique power of “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days”—like the unique system of Empath Empowerment®, depends upon answering these three questions.
Valerie, here you have asked two altogether different questions. It would be lovely if you – or another Goodreader – would ask the foundational three questions I’ve just posed.
Meanwhile, you asked those two altogether different questions, so I’ll do what I can to answer them here. But I’m going to restate that first question a bit differently, just so that I can do a better job of answering it.
QUESTION 1. How did you discover unskilled empath merge?
Fact is, Valerie, even with all the how-to books for empaths that others have published since I founded the field, guess what? Far as I know, no other empath coach – that is, no writer of how-to books for empaths – has written answers to those above-mentioned 1-2-3 questions about unskilled empath merge.
Weird, isn’t it? Since unskilled empath merge is the central cause of the difficulties that create suffering for empaths.
Furthermore, for context, let’s acknowledge this. How 1 in 20 people alive now... each of us was born as an empath. Statistically, then, unskilled empath merge counts as a pretty important problem to solve.
Another way to put your first question might be helpful at this point, so here goes.
TWEAKED QUESTION 1. How did I become the first person to discover unskilled empath merge?
Yes, I’m going to answer that variant of your original question. (Hope you don’t mind, Valerie.)
* How did I become that first person?
* How did I become the only person so far (to my knowledge) who doesn’t only write books for empaths but offers systematic instruction in solving the problem of unskilled empath merge?
PICTURE THIS
The year is 1971. The place is Mallorca -- an island in Spain. There I am, in a hotel room that’s maybe two steps up from a Motel 6. Only it’s in Spain, for heaven’s sake, where the air smells of oranges and the rich, fragrant soil. So who cares about having a very basic hotel room?
Look, I feel incredibly fortunate to be living there for two months. You see, Goodreaders, I am studying with His Holiness Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. I’m studying in order to complete my Teacher Training Course, so that I can become one of Maharishi’s initiators and teach Transcendental Meditation (TM).
What is my daily schedule? Every evening, our group meets in a large lecture hall, where Maharishi dazzles us, instructing us in how to become this kind of spiritual teacher.
Three meals a day, we’re seated in the hotel restaurant, eating at a large round table covered in a heavy white tablecloth.
What matters most, though, happens in hotel rooms like mine. Maharishi has asked us to do “unlimited rounding.” What does that mean?
When we’re not taking our meals or asking Maharishi questions during those evening lectures, our job involves meditation. (Rounding means alternating meditation with brief supplements, in the form of yoga asanas and breathing exercises.)
We’re supposed to do “unlimited rounding” for as many hours as possible. On this particular day, I manage to do 15 hours. That becomes my personal record.
Most days I can’t manage to meditate for that long. Sometimes I'll crash into blackout sleep… as if I drank so much whiskey that I’ve passed out.
Or sometimes, my meditation sequence is interrupted because I’ve released so much “stress” (Maharishi’s term of art in TM) from all that meditation. For long stretches of time, all that I can do is cry, and cry hard.
Doing all that meditation can take a lot out of a person, but who counts the cost? Because this rounding is teaching me about consciousness, the spiritual awareness within each of us.
As a TM teacher, I will need to become very familiar with the fine fabric of consciousness within myself… and also, to some extent, what’s happening to the consciousness within my students.
Later, that In-Depth Exploration of Consciousness Helps Me to Teach Empaths, Too
In fact, the entire system of Empath Empowerment® has been designed because of what I’ve learned, and continue to learn, about the consciousness aspect of being an empath.
Granted, this kind of understanding was fairly unusual, back in the 1970s. Or 1980s. Or 1990s. All of which I spent with my main passion in life being what? Either I was personally meditating or else I was teaching others how to meditate.
Due to this kind of experience, plus skills that I learned in 1985 for how to cocreate with the Divine (btw, all this could count as answers to some different questions you might ask me here in the future, Goodreaders) I was able to learn about – you guessed it – what happens to the consciousness of empaths.
HERE’S A SECRET ABOUT EMPATHS THAT FEW PEOPLE KNOW
Being an empath involves consciousness. Both what it means to be an empath in the first place. And also what happens with unskilled empath merge. Plus, also how to become a Skilled Empath.
Due to all that specialized exploration of consciousness, I was able to cocreate the system of Empath Empowerment® and write the four books that I now make available in my series for empaths.
Besides Book 1 “Empath Empowerment in 30 Days,” you can read these:
* “The Empowered Empath: Quick and Easy.” That’s Book 2 of the series.
* “The Empowered Empath: Owning, Embracing and Managing Your Special Gifts.” That’s Book 3.
* “The Master Empath.” That’s Book 4.
QUESTION 2. What do you wish every empath could understand about unskilled empath merge?
This question has a very practical answer. Even if you don’t know much at all (yet) about unskilled empath merge, please know this.
Unskilled empaths suffer. Some of us suffer more than others.
So Important to Know
All of us unskilled empaths suffer, even if we know nothing yet about Empath Empowerment®. Hey, we might not even know that we’re empaths.
Still, we suffer. Subconsciously and energetically, we’re constantly taking on pain, confusions, and worries from other people.
Annoyingly, as you can find out if you develop Empath Empowerment, you’re not even helping those other people. Grrrrr, right?
Doing unskilled empath merge serves no practical purpose, but here’s the thing. What starts off within us as an annoying thing that all empaths do, without meaning to…
Doing this unskilled thing… uses (or misuses) the very same capacities within us as empaths... that we can learn how to use on purpose. What do I mean, learn to use those capacities on purpose? That is called doing Skilled Empath Merge.
Those Skilled Empath Merges can become a wonderful source of knowledge for us. Especially beautiful if, in any way, that empath cares about service to others.
Any kind of service that you do for others! Like you, Valerie, and how your day job involves helping a group of blue collar workers who don’t ordinarily receive a lot of respect from society.
1. If you care about helping others, bringing more social justice into this world.
2. If you care about helping others as an artist or a musician or even a writer.
3. If you care about helping others, simply because you love God. And so you feel a passion deep within you, that you must put that caring into action.
For reasons like these, not only CAN you learn how to do Skilled Empath Merge. But, once you've learned, how much better you will do that job that means so much to you!
Differently Put, If Better Service to Others Can Help You to Fulfill the Purpose of Your Life
And if you were born an empath…
Learning Skilled Empath Merge can help you to fulfill the purpose of your life, and do it more beautifully than you can now imagine.
One of the sayings I teach in Energy Spirituality® workshops goes like this:
For every good thing in your life, you must pay the price.
Suffering through through unskilled empath merge is the price that every born empath pays. Like a downpayment, Valerie, on how much you can learn, how much you can give, and all that you can receive… once you start living as a Skilled Empath.
Thanks again for asking these questions. Thanks for asking them here at “Ask the Author” on Goodreads.
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