Carolyn Johle
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Josh Sundquist:
(CUCUMBERS) Hey Josh! Congrats on your book. My question for you is, how has your attitude about yourself changed since meeting Ashley? Was it a gradual change? What caused it? Did your relationship with Ashley boost your confidence or did a confidence boost cause the relationship? Or was it a bit of both? Also, many congrats to you guys on your engagement! DFTBA
Josh Sundquist
A bit of both. I think the investigation process I describe in WSHOS contributed not just to confidence but to maturity in a sense that I learned what NOT to do in relationships.
And then yes, certainly being in a relationship with Ashley where I have someone who approves and loves me for who I am is well, just as good as it sounds it would be.
But it's a paradox; you often have to come to a place of self-approval and acceptance (which is to say, giving up trying to be something or someone else) before the real you shines through, at which point you give a potential romantic partner the chance to love and accept that real you.
And then yes, certainly being in a relationship with Ashley where I have someone who approves and loves me for who I am is well, just as good as it sounds it would be.
But it's a paradox; you often have to come to a place of self-approval and acceptance (which is to say, giving up trying to be something or someone else) before the real you shines through, at which point you give a potential romantic partner the chance to love and accept that real you.
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